Additionally, Doug Wilson writes, "Being married amplifies what a person is."⁴⁴  If you are the right kind of person, are looking for the right kind of person, and pleasing Christ is your highest priority, the method you use is secondary.

³⁹See Douglas Wilson, "Her Hand in Marriage:  Biblical Courtship in the Modern World" (Moscow, ID:  Canon Press, 1997); Josh Harris, "I Kissed Dating Goodbye:  A New Attitude Toward Romance and Relationships" (Sisters, OR:  Multnomah, 1997) and "Boy Meets Girl:  Say Hello to Courtship" (Sisters, OR:  Multnomah, 2000); and Paul Jehle, "Dating Vs. Courtship" (Plymouth, MA:  Plymouth Rock Foundation, 2001). 
⁴⁰Unless otherwise identified, all Scripture quotations in this chapter are taken from the English Standard Version (ESV).
⁴¹Jehle, 113, Note Jehle's assertion about the Isaac and Rebekah narrative:  "In principle it is an authoritative guide for us to follow" (emphasis added).
⁴²One example is Eric and Leslie Ludy, "When God Writes Your Love Story" (Sisters, OR:  Loyal Publishing, 1999).  The Ludys have an encouraging story and share lots of good advice.  But though their book includes some applicable biblical texts, it is made up predominantly of stories that warm the heart; but carry no scriptural authority. 
⁴³Harris, "Boy Meets Girl," 32.
⁴⁴Wilson, 83.

Taken from "5 Paths to the Love of Your Life" by Lauren Winner, Jeramy Clark and Jerusha Clark, Douglas Wilson, Rick Holland and Jonathan Lindvall.  General editor:  Alex Chediak.  This content is used by permission of Th1nk Books (NavPress), and the book is available at your local bookstore or at www.navpress.com.

Dr. Rick Holland is the pastor of College and Student Ministries at Grace Community Church in Sun Valley, California, and an instructor at The Master's College and Seminary.  Rick is a regular conference speaker, both nationally and internationally, and preaches weekly to a ministry of over one thousand collegians.  Rick and his wife, Kim, have three sons.