I want to offer a few extra words of caution. Too often the relationship balance can be upset when the partner who needs the other less tends to put in reduced effort, becomes less giving and even exploits his or her partner. Another danger is when the partner who needs the other more tends to submit to, and perhaps invite this unevenness and exploitation. The key will be paying attention to your feelings. There will be inevitable imbalances and you must choose whether you will be upset with every little inequity, tell yourself the imbalance is okay while ignoring evidence that you are filled with hurt and resentment, or feel comfortable with the amount you give and receive.

Take a moment and consider your relationship and ask yourself, and your mate, if the relationship is generally balanced. Are you both working hard to meet one another’s needs? Do you take time to not only consider your mates needs, but share your own? If so, you may really be ready for love.

David Hawkins, PhD., has worked with couples and families to improve the quality of their lives by resolving personal issues for the last 30 years. 

He is the author of over 18 books, including  "Love Lost: Living Beyond a Broken Marriage," "Saying It So He'll Listen," and  "When Pleasing Others Is Hurting You." His newest book, "When the Man in Your Life Can’t Commit," releases February 2006. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities.