When all is said and done, the only thing you can control is yourself and your outlook. You get to make your life as exciting as you want it to be. Don’t leave that up to the discretion of another human being who could fail you. Not on purpose, but let’s face it – life happens. So does death, disappointment, bad health, unemployment, and a plethora of unseen interruptions of our perfectly laid plans for happiness and fulfillment. Jesus said, “Do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own” (Matthew 6:34). Even He, though having an omnipotent knowledge of things to come, practiced being present every day. Jesus completely submerged Himself in what lay before Him in the given moment. How much more should we, who do not have a full knowledge of what tomorrow holds, follow His example by being present—living in the fullness of where we are right now, right where we are?

Getting Real

• In what areas have you been stuck in life?
• What will you begin to do differently?
• What would you do differently if you were not going to be married for the next five years?
• What things would you like to experience, trips would you like to take, and things would you like to see? What is stopping you?

So I commend the enjoyment of life, because nothing is better for a [woman] under the sun than to eat and drink and be glad.  Then joy will accompany [her] in [her] work all the days of the life God has given [her] under the sun (Ecclesiastes 8:15).

KING SOLOMON, after much thought at the end of his days.



Taken from How to Avoid the 10 Mistakes Single Women Make by Michelle McKinney Hammond; Copyright 2006 by Michelle McKinney Hammond; Published by Harvest House Publishers, Eugene, OR; Used by Permission.

Michelle McKinney Hammond, a writer, singer, and speaker who focuses on improving love-driven relationships, is the founder and president of HeartWing Ministries as well as the co-host of the Emmy nominated show Aspiring Women. Michelle is the author of The DIVA Principle™, 101 Ways to Get and Keep His Attention and Sassy, Single, & Satisfied (more than 185,000 copies sold).