The ultimate finish line is not the marriage altar, as good and desirable as marriage can be. The finish line is seeing your Lord and Savior face to face, in glory. Don't forget that when temptation comes around. You must remember that you are keeping yourself pure because it's your spiritual act of worship and praise (Romans 12:1-3) – not just because of the hope of a future husband. If you get married, your husband will no doubt praise you for your self-control and the gift of your purity to him. But your primary motivation must be to please your Savior, marriage or not.

The loneliness you are experiencing is probably more than just your singleness. Yes, there are moments of loneliness being single, but the chronic bleat of a lonely heart is often the bleat of an isolated sheep, one who is far from the sheepfold and far from the Shepherd. You need encouragement and fellowship, especially because you are in a new place. How is your church? Are you plugged in there? Are you benefiting from relationships there? Are people praying for you? Are you getting to know them and vice versa? A good local church is vital for every Christian, but I would say even more so for the single Christian. It is worth whatever sacrifice you must make to be part of a church that is committed to biblical fellowship.

Don't believe the lie that you are unimportant in God's eyes. You are an object of mercy, a trophy of God's grace, and a woman Jesus died for. Study Paul's letters. Read all that he wrote about God's work in drawing us to Himself. Immerse yourself in those rich, biblical truths until you no longer think the way the world thinks about winners and losers. That said, though, I need to remind you that you are, in fact, a loser. I'm a loser. Every single human being is a loser. Why? Because we all fall short of God's standard (Romans 3:23). BUT – and this is the wonderful fact – BUT, we have been chosen in Him to be redeemed, restored, and glorified (Romans 8:28-30). Unmerited favor, but we are recipients of it nonetheless, and equally so. No one is more redeemed in the Kingdom than the next person. Thus, you can be assured God is not ignoring you because He thinks someone else is more important. God is not like us in this way. Study Mary and Martha at the grave of Lazarus. As Henry Blackaby has said, God’s silences are not His rejection. They often are preparation for a greater revelation of Himself.

This spiritual crisis is more than just about you having a date or not. This is spiritual warfare. Your spiritual enemy is prowling around, studying you, and looking to devour you (1 Peter 5:8-9). It is about much more than just being lonely. It's about Satan discrediting your witness, bringing shame to the gospel, and getting in Jesus' face. Don't stumble now! Humble yourself before God and ask for help to battle both temptation and the indwelling sins of lust and covetousness. He gives grace to the humble, but opposes the proud (1 Peter 5:5).