Is Father's Day worth remembering when you don't have a daddy?

Since my daddy left when I was five, I've never really had a hard time with Father's Day.

I described it to my friends this way whenever they asked if it was sad growing up without one:

I don't feel anything. It's probably like being born without a limb. You can't miss what you've never had.

Now that I'm not a kid any more, I don't have to lie.

It was sad -- because I can never know what it's like to have a daddy.

A Little Too Strong

I don't recall the exact question I asked my mom, but I remember her words like it was yesterday.

My mother told me to cope this way: "Just think of yourself as being born without a dad. Some fathers die when babies are born and they grow up just fine."

I know she meant well. She didn't want me to stumble. It did make me stronger--a little too strong, maybe.  I never felt the pain of a missing father. I felt nothing.

I made a detour around the place inside me that wanted a father. I didn't think I needed to be vulnerable, held, or carried. To feel this way was a sign of weakness and limitation.

This changed when I became an adult.

Living by faith didn’t grant me immunity to heartbreak and disappointment. For the first time, I wished I had a father.

A Beautiful Possession

Being loved by a daddy is like having the sun kiss your nose while you're eating sweet strawberries and running through sprinklers with laughter.

You don't need it, but it can change your world.

A father worth remembering makes the pang of missing someone a beautiful possession.

Since coming into my own, I've learned that having arms to crawl into, shoulders to ride on, and a soft place to land are birthrights Jesus paid for me to own.

To feel loved by a father is a sign of belonging and blessing.

It's what everyone truly wants, no matter how old we get.

A person can die lonely in pursuit of a father’s love.

Not us. When we embrace God as our Father, we are finally free to discover who we really are.

Celebrate The Day

If you're like me, without a daddy:

1.  Still celebrate.

As we read cards meant for others, read them the way I do at the card store. Read them quietly in your heart to our Father God. You may feel an ache, but imagine the tenderness on our Heavenly Father’s face.

2.  Take steps to experience God as Father.

As I looked anew for God as Father in the Bible, a polite paternal relationship as a  follower of Jesus grew into an intimate belonging with my real Heavenly Daddy.

First, dare to believe: My Heavenly Father loves me the same way He loves Jesus.

“I have made Your name known to them … so that the love with which You loved Me may be in them…" Jesus speaking to Father God. John 17:26

Second, confide your deepest longings: My Heavenly Father takes a loving, personal interest in me.

"… I do not say to you that I will request of the Father on your behalf; for the Father Himself loves you…”Jesus. John 16:26-27

Third, be honest: My Heavenly Father can handle my feelings, especially when I’m most troubled.

"Abba! Father! All things are possible for You; remove this cup from Me; yet not what I will, but what You will." Jesus.  Mark 15:36

Fourth, pray to God addressing Him as “Dad,” “Daddy,” or “Papa.” My Heavenly Father has adopted me as His very own.