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Move Out of Autopilot Mode: Choose Your Worth By Choosing to Rest

  • Bonnie Gray

    Bonnie Gray is the soulful author of Whispers of Rest and Finding Spiritual Whitespace. An inspirational speaker and retreat leader, she has touched thousands of lives through storytelling, visual arts, nature, prayer and meditation.  Bonnie’s writing is featured on Relevant Magazine, DaySpring (in)courage, and Christianity Today. She lives in California with her husband and their two sons. Visit Bonnie at and connect with her @thebonniegray on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and YouTube.

  • 2015 Mar 02
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{psst.. I have a soul-stirring video below  to share with you today I created with my friend Henriette. We share an honest conversation between kindreds... with you.}

For those of us who are encouragers, we're often shy about voicing our needs.

We don't want to add to anyone's burdens. We often liven in autopilot mode.

Especially if we find ourselves in a stressful situation, sometimes we are the most vulnerable.  

We're afraid to take time for ourselves because we don't really believe there's a place for us in this world, among our friends, apart from what we can do for others. We don't know our worth.

Sometimes it's the encouragers, the strong ones that struggle with our experiences - putting ourselves to the side.  As the strong ones, we feel we add to people's burdens, if we were ever to express or be in touch with our need.

Do you often live in "autopilot" mode & put yourself to the side when life gets frantic? I wondered if I was the only one, so I recorded an unscripted conversation with my friend Henriette. What she shared is so vulnerable & powerful. Click below watch today's Soul Mocha Video "Why Choosing to Rest Is Choosing Your Worth" & share your comments below. Wk 4 Video - book club - Henriette

(I've returned from my trip to the Dominican Republic with Compassion (click here to read the life-changing stories I experienced). We're continuing reading of my book Finding Spiritual Whitespace — with this video.)

We don't want to feel weak. We're afraid others wouldn't love us if we couldn't offer them the strength we always give.

We may have adopted this as our coping mechanism when others around us struggle.  

We may feel it's the only way to feel in control. But, with God, there is one place we can let go of that heavy burden.

God doesn't need us to be in autopilot mode. God's heart breaks for us when He sees us moving through our days merely functioning, performing -- stressing -- and surviving.

God longs for us to be a child again.  It's all He ever wanted -- was to provide a place where we can just be me.  And find that little girl emerge again -- with all her stories, her needs and wants.

So He can comfort her, take care of her and put her first place in his heart.

So He can love her.

"Encourage her to believe. there is a place for her. comfort her when she cries.

be patient. show her kindness.

don't give up on the little girl on you and on me." -- excerpt from my book Finding Spiritual Whitespace.

We all long for. Someone to say --

i see you. i hear you.

i value your story.

let me love you.

take time to feed your soul. enjoy rest.

God wants us to make time to come to him. God wants us to be loved.

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"How precious are your thoughts about me, O God… Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand. When I awake, I am still with you.” ps. 13: 17, 18

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By Bonnie Gray. Bonnie is the soulful author of Finding Spiritual Whitespace: Awakening Your Soul To Rest, which has garnered starred review praise from Publisher’s Weekly, named as the Top 6 notable new religion authors.  Bonnie blogs at Faith Barista, serving up shots of faith in the daily grindShe writes for DaySpring (in)courage, Revelant Magazine, spotlighted by Christianity Today and Catalyst Leadership.  After graduating from UCLA, Bonnie served as a missionary, ministry entrepreneur, and Silicon Valley high-tech professional. She lives in California with her husband, Eric, and their two sons.

For inspiration to create space in your life to breathe, order a copy of Finding Spiritual Whitespace: Awakening Your Soul To Rest.  This memoir-driven guidebook for rest will nurture your heart to draw closer to God. 

"Whitespace is soul grace. Bonnie Gray ushers weary women into the real possibility." - Ann Voskamp, NY Times bestsellng author of One Thousand Gifts

"If you want to hear Jesus speak more tenderly to your soul than ever befrore, this is the book for you." - Lysa TerKeurst, NY Times bestselling author of Unglued

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