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Nicki Koziarz Christian Blog and Commentary

What Doesn't Kill Us, Still Hurts

  • Nicki Koziarz


    Nicki Koziarz is a speaker, writer, and leader in today's generation. She lives just outside of Charlotte, NC with her husband and their three girls. As a leader and speaker, Nicki is willing to tackle the hard issues this generation is facing to encourage the pursuit of God's Truth in their lives. She is on staff at Proverbs 31 Ministries as the coordinator for their online Bible studies. Nicki speaks nationally for retreats, conferences, events and MOPS groups. For more information on having Nicki for your next event you can email her at: [email protected] Visit Nicki's site at:

  • 2013 Aug 09
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Her words were unnecessary.

Her tone was hurtful.

Her finger pointing seemed unfair.

I was hurt and surprised.

When I opened up an email a few days ago, I was stunned at an unexpected reaction someone was having towards me.  I’m a pretty emotionally tough girl at heart; it takes a lot to push me towards the edge. But this email quickly ushered me to such a place.

Past her hurtful words though, I knew a Truth was tucked into this email.

It was a Truth I didn’t want to hear.

The thing she was upset with me about didn’t seem fair but this situation also wasn’t my project from God. I knew it too. Week’s prior I had denied His voice prompting me to say “no” to this situation. I got involved anyway.

And as a tear from my hurt soul rolled down my face, I remembered this prayer I had a prayed a few days prior…

“God do what You need to do, to get me to where I need to be.”

These are the words my soul needs to whisper more often. They are words that help me find a godly perspective in situations [like this email.]

Because if I really mean them when I pray them, I will trust that even in the painful situations of life, I will find the promises of God. Those promises lead me towards the places He wants me to go.

The fact is what doesn’t kill us…still hurts.

So while this email didn’t kill me, my soul ached from the words it offered me but even more so from my waywardness towards God’s promptings.

But I accepted the release God offered through this verse: 

Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him, and he will act. Psalm 37:5

The most powerful thing in our lives are the promises God offers us through His Word.

This promise helped me to feel the weight of not following that prompting on my soul to not get involved in this situation. And now, this promise is helping me to be able to tune into those promptings of release even more.

Today there is someone on the other side of this screen who needs to let their soul speak these words too:

“God, do what you need to do, to get me to where I need to be.”

Submitting to a prayer like this isn’t easy. But the recognition of God’s voice following the submission this prayer offers is one that makes it all worth it.