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New Life Daily Devotion - May 23

  • 2022 May 23

The Detached Role

Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. - Romans 12:9


Tom’s a clerk in a hectic government office. In the midst of all the daily pressures, he’s regarded as one of the most even-tempered workers in the department. He’s quiet, efficient, and never seems to get riled at his impatient coworkers or those visiting his office.


Tom spends his energy herding his emotions because he feels they’re his enemy. Deep inside he believes that his father didn’t like him as a boy because he was too much of a crybaby and a “fraidy-cat.” Since he perceives that he lost his father by being too much of a sissy, Tom isn’t about to expose his emotions as an adult. His controlled emotional detachment also keeps him aloof from his wife. In the past, whenever Tom showed any signs of being troubled, angry, or fearful, she’d ask him what was wrong. But his usual response was a curt, “Nothing!” So, she learned not to ask.


Detached people like Tom find it difficult to live out the values they profess because they ignore their heart, which is the center from which values come. Often a detached person will become addicted to work, money, football, alcohol, or drugs.


Are you like Tom? Do you stuff your sense of defeat inside, thinking you should be able to “take it?” Are you emotionally frozen? Perhaps you’re so dead inside you have little to give a relation-ship. Is your spouse enduring a frustrating relationship because you insist on suffering your losses alone? You can change. Start by connecting with others. Find a safe person that you can talk to. We were meant for connection, not detachment!


“Never shall I forget the days I spent with you. Continue to be my friend, as you will always find me yours.” -Ludwig Van Beethoven (1770-1827)


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Taken from The Life Recovery Devotional: Thirty Meditations from Scripture for Each Step in Recovery by Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop. Copyright © 1991 by Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. All rights reserved.

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