Unanswered emails. Unreturned phone calls. Invitations that needed a RSVP.
I never meant for life to get so chaotic but...it did.
The other day I ran into a friend who'd sent me one of those invites. Which I hadn't responded to, thank-you-very-much.
With her eyes slanted, brows raised, she heartily dosed out the I'm irritated with you vibe. I blurted out apologies for not RSVPing, tried to justify my actions and... well, you can imagine the scene.
It was obvious, my lack of response had hurt her.
Truth was, she probably wasn't the only one I'd hurt. It made me think of the dozens of others I'd unintentionally blown off due to a "chaotic schedule."
I felt rotten.
There's no way I can be there for everyone all the time, but there's gotta be some balance in my delayed response. Sometimes I think we become so focused on all the things we can't do that we fail to see what we can do.
During a quiet moment, I came across this Word and it motivated me to make changes:
"Whatever may be your task, work at it heartily (from the soul), as [something done] for the Lord and not for men." ~Colossians 3:23
This verse challenged me to think about my responsiveness, or lack of it.
"Whatever may be your task..."
Responsiveness matters as much to the friend who just wants to say "hi" as it does to the co-worker who invites me to her big shin-dig.
"...work at it heartily (from the soul)..."
Responsiveness moves me to care deeply for others.
"...as [something done] for the Lord and not for men."
Responsiveness helps me stay focused on being a good representation of Jesus.
Life isn't going to slow down. But there are some things I can do to make a better effort to be responsive.
Here are 3 ways we can do to become better responders:
1. Take ten minutes in the morning [after some time with God] to go through emails, text messages, fb notifications, tweets...etc. Prioritize what requires immediate attention and what can wait. Begin drafts for emails that need a longer response and delete messages you're done with.
2. Don't get sucked in to being constantly connected. Continual communication can run you dry. Get back to people in a timely manner, but remember, timely doesn't always mean five seconds after a message is received.
3. Do what you can do in a day and then be done. Understanding our limits is important in developing a healthy system of responsiveness. If we continually stay overwhelmed with chaotic schedules, we won't be able to do anything well.
Our response matters. We can make a difference in this world by being a person who responds to others well.
Nicki Koziarz is a woman who thrives off the 3 C's of daily living: Coffee, Christ, and Creativity. www.nickikoziarz.com
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