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Then & Now - Week of August 25

  • 2008 Aug 25

“How to Attract the Right Kind of Guy”
Genesis 24:12-67

You know how to get the wrong guy.

That’s easy.

Maybe you’ve had that talk with your parents and you know where they stand.

But perhaps you’re sitting here, as a Christian girl or Christian guy, and you want to eventually spend the rest of your life with someone who loves God passionately.

How do you get that guy or that girl to notice you?

Believe it or not, there was a young teen in the Bible who did it right. She attracted a guy who passionately loved God.

What was her secret? Did she wear the right clothes? Did she listen to the right music? Did she hang with the popular crowd at school?

How did she get noticed? Rebekah attracted God’s man for her life by simply being herself. No pretense. No show.

Isaac was part of a special family, the family of Abraham. And Abraham was a man who wanted to make sure his son married a woman who loved God. So he sent his servant on a cross-country quest to find Ms. Right.

At the end of his journey, the servant stopped by a well for rest. He was tired and his camels needed water. Imagine a rest stop on the side of a road.

Guess who just happened to be there at the well? Rebekah. She didn’t know this important man was here. She had no idea she was being evaluated. All she knew was that a tired traveler needed some water. So she selflessly took care of him and his camels.

In other words, she lived out her faith on an ordinary day without expecting anything in return. Her love for God and for others was so attractive, it drew Rebekah to Abramam’s servant, and eventually to the man God wanted her to marry.

The world has a lot of romantic advice for young people and most of it is wrong. Magazines are filled with tips on how to dress, how to act, how to win your way into the heart of the opposite sex. You can follow this advice, but you might not end up with someone who loves God.

Its better to follow the example of Rebekah and live out your faith every day. You just don’t know who might be watching.


  • What qualifications do you think are important in a future husband or wife? 
  • Are you developing those positive character traits in your own life? 
  • If Abraham’s servant came to your school, your home, your youth group, would they find you living out your faith?  

Daniel Darling is an author and pastor with a passion for young people. He is the author of Teen People of the Bible, a 100-day devotional for teens. Visit him at

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