Two-thirds of our congregations are women and children. One-third is men.
But ask yourself: Which category most influences the other? Intuitively, we know the ripple effect men have on the people around them - for better or for worse.
More poignantly, we feel the impact of unhealthy men when we look at families and the root causes of the problems there. The sad reality is that a large proportion of our men cannot give in their relationships what their hearts do not possess.
That is why a pastor I know in Texas targets men on purpose. He bet the health of his church on his plan when he said, "Kenny, if I reach the man, I reach every relationship he has."
Not a bad strategy, but is it biblical? With so much church energy naturally coming from our women and flowing toward our children, it's time to reflect on our ministry (or lack thereof) to the men in our backyards.
Most importantly, what is God's mind in men's ministry? As we’ll see, God is very Purpose-Driven when it comes to men.
Men: God’s Priority
"The vineyard of the Lord Almighty is the house of Israel, and the men of Judah are the Garden of His delight. He looked for justice but saw bloodshed; for righteousness but heard cries of distress.” Isaiah 5:7 NIV
In the Song of the Vineyard, God talks about his affection for his people and then, interestingly, he singles out the men. As the passage continues, it describes activities (negative ones) that the men of the time engaged in. The context here is clearly men.
So, let's see what his heart is for men...
First, they are "the garden of his delight.” A garden is a place to sow, and a place to go to enjoy what you’ve sown. A garden is a place of refreshment, and a place of beauty that ministers to us. Lastly, a garden is a place of productivity and fruitfulness. To God, the men of Judah represented the possibility of all these things.
Second, "he looked for justice… for righteousness.” When God turned to the Garden of His Delight, he was looking for something specific. His father’s heart is revealed in this text as he looks for his own character to be reproduced in his men.
Why do you think we feel so full as fathers when our sons aspire to be like us, imitate us, and develop the good character qualities they see in us?
Third, the consequences of undeveloped character in men became disastrous for the faith-community they inhabited. If you continue reading this text, you see sick characters diving into sicker conduct producing broken relationships. Greed, materialism, hedonism, narcissism, callousness to spiritual things, and moral relativism reeked havoc on the community, and these things were unleashed through the men!
the church caters to women, children and the elderly by creating a safe, predictable environment. This alienates anyone fond of risk taking (men). Churches must "adjust the thermostat" to embrace the masculine spirit: let men lead; give them tasks; encourage pastors to show strength and teach men through object lessons, letting them discover truth for themselves. Two of the best outreach methods: start rigorous mentoring programs and help men make friends with other men. Men love activities as well as story sermons. My church does fairly well at this by using videos, dramas, goofy skits, humor, etc. On Father's Day they had motorcycles, antique cars, egg sandwiches, lounge chairs for the men as they entered. Then had kids nominate the best Dad for a contest. Pastors, it takes effort on both parts. Hard work pays off.