Jon & Kate Gosselin: A Family Tragedy Times Eight
- Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Jon, although he said that he was sad about it all, actually stated that he was also “excited” about starting a new life away from Kate, who apparently had belittled/berated him one too many times.
And Kate, although she admitted that this was a place she never intended to be, made it very clear that she was more than ready to turn the page on this section of her life move on. Snip-snap; that’s that; time for another book deal; time for another speaking tour. She did admit, however, to actually crying for a whole half day. A entire half day! Then, it was time to wake up the next morning and shoot another episode.
Through it all we were told repeatedly by both Jon and Kate that it
was all “for the kids.” They were really just splitting up “for the
children.” These two adults were choosing divorce because that was
supposedly the best solution they could come up with to provide a
stable home for the little ones. Tragic. My heart continues to break.
- What about marriage counseling?
- What about trying to find out where the problems lie, then working like crazy for at least a dedicated year away from the cameras to make the marriage succeed?
- What about flat-out declaring that divorce is not an option and turning to God, prayer, scripture, family, and friends for wisdom and insight into how/where everything went so wrong — and finding a solution?
- What about the commitments made to God and to each other?
- What about “for better” or “for worse”? (They burned through the better. But are only now getting to the worse — i.e., where the rubber meets the road.)
- What about using just a separation for some time to think (and some space), rather than running off to file for divorce?
From watching the show there seems to be some obvious issues.
First, we have the young, impetuous, fun-loving, care-free, passive Jon, who was thrown into a situation he never expected — i.e., being 26-years old/27-years old and having 8 kids! Okay, that’s tough. But now, instead of running, he needs to grow up. He needs to adjust to life as it is— lean on God; be willing to change; accept the fact that letting go of one’s freedom is part of being married and having children. Changing our preconceived ideas of what we THOUGHT our life would be is often NOT fun and NOT what we want — but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t change our outlook. If Jon remains unwilling to accept Kate’s flaws/weaknesses and stays unwilling to step up the plate for his marriage, it'll cost him his family.
Second, we have the controlling, rather harsh-toned, and disrespectful-to-her-husband Kate who is also in a situation she never expected — i.e., fame, wealth, notoriety, celebrity status, book deals, speaking tours, a glamor make-over, and a bright future promising more of the same. Okay, that’s incredibly enticing, I’ll agree. But there is NOTHING the world can offer that’s better than what God offers if we are obedient and if we seek to live according to the priorities that he has set up: 1. Our relationship with God. 2. Our relationship with our spouse. 3. Our relationship to our kids. 4. Our relationship to our ministry/career. Kate has these priorities, it seems, out of whack. And now it’s costing her God’s best.
Jon & Kate were given an open highway to life and handed virtually everything on a silver platter: love, health, adorable kids, wealth, fame, influence...and even, so we have been told by Jon and Kate, a relationship with God through Jesus Christ. And they've let it all slip through their fingers, while simultaneously claiming that their ongoing bad choices are being made for the kids, for the kids, for the kids....like a mantra to convince us (and perhaps even themselves) that their divorce isn’t really just FOR THEM.
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