11 Biggest Mistakes for Parents Who Are Facebook Friends With Their Kids
Jim LiebeltJim is Senior Writer, Editor and Researcher for the HomeWord Center for Youth and Family at Azusa Pacific University. Jim has over 25 years of experience as a youth and family ministry specialist, and has been on the HomeWord staff since 1998. He has served over the years as a pastor, author, youth ministry trainer, adjunct college instructor and speaker. Jim’s culture blog and parenting articles appear on HomeWord.com. Jim is a contributing author of culture and parenting articles to Crosswalk.com. Jim and his wife Jenny live in Olympia, WA.
- 2011 Oct 27
So your kids finally friended you on Facebook. Congratulations — you now have mind-blowing inside access to their online worlds. Now what? Avoid the top 11 mistakes parents make on Facebook. Avoid them like the plague. You'll keep the peace with your tween or teen — and hopefully, your coveted friend status, too.
1. Don't over-share. Do all 1,200 of your son's friends really need to know he still sucks his thumb at night?
2. Realize that everyone sees your comments.
3. Don't pry.
4. Don't get too personal. Resist the urge to ask if that fancy acne cream you bought is clearing things up.
5. Don't tag your child in photos. Not even those adorable brace-face ones.
6. Never assume your kid can (or wants to) chat just because he or she is logged in.
7. Never, ever reply to comments for your kids. Don't speak on his or her behalf.
8. Don't nag kids to do their chores. You'll just waste precious time you can spend nagging them in person.
9. Don't stalk their significant others -- at least on Facebook.
10. Don't chide or punish them. Disciplining kids via Facebook won't produce the results you seek.
11. Don't Like too much. Don't go overboard liking every picture, status update, comment or link your teen posts.