In 2005, I wrote How Many Porn Addicts are in Your Church? that showed at least 50% of Christian men were viewing porn. Eight years later, how are we doing?

Here’s what todays numbers show:

Porn has gone mainstream:
67% of men and 59% of women say that porn is acceptable.

More Christians are struggling with it:

  • Josh McDowell quotes statistics that 60% of Christian men are viewing porn.
  • A Christian missions agency reports that 80% of new applicants admit to viewing porn. They no longer ask “if,” but “how often.”
  • One youth minister estimated that 90% of the kids who come to him for help, all who are from Christian families, are addicted to porn.
  • 21% of Christian girls admitted to texting a sexually explicit picture of themselves.
  • 50% of pastors regularly view porn.

Porn has exploded among our youth:

  • According to a worldwide survey of 19,000 parents, kids as young as age six are accessing porn.
  • The largest age group of porn users is 12 to 17 year olds.
  • 70% of 18 to 24 year olds visit porn sites monthly

Can all of this be true?

At Blazing Grace, we receive emails often from Christian wives whose marriages are reeling. Some are close to divorce. Often, their emails read like this: “My Christian husband won’t get help, and he blames me for his porn addiction. He holds a ministry position in the church and he won’t tell anyone. What should we do?”

Marriages and families are being destroyed at an increasing rate. Estimates are that 50% of divorces are caused by porn.

With all the carnage we’re seeing, are pastors taking porn seriously?

In a recent survey, 1,000 pastors were asked how many of their members they thought were viewing porn on a weekly basis. 43% did not respond.
Of those who did:

  • 62% said they thought that less than 10% were viewing porn.
  • 24% guessed between 10 and 24%.
  • The remaining minority thought it might be higher than 25%.

A tsunami of sexual depravity is rolling over the church; it’s hitting every age group at full force, from kindergarteners to seniors. The advent of smartphones has a lot do with this. Mom and Dad don’t realize that the iPhone they gave to little Jimmy is a gateway to porn; if Jimmy doesn’t already know how to access it, his friends at school will show him. In his Moody Church newsletter just this month, Erwin Lutzer wrote of counseling parents of teenagers who had been taught by peers how to get around porn blocking software. If Mom and Dad don’t speak openly and honestly with Jimmy about porn at an early age, by the time he’s a teenager the chances are high that he’ll be a full blown addict. Just recently we were contacted by a young man who said his parents had never talked to him about porn. He had been addicted to it for three years.

Our reality of today is that waves of college-aged men are entering marriage with a porn habit. As I know from experience, the stress and challenges of marriage force all false coping mechanisms to the surface. If a man has used porn for comfort before marriage, it won’t be long until his relationship with his wife is on dangerous ground. The family is already unraveling in the U.S. at a breakneck pace; left unchecked, the porn tsunami will bring about even more wreckage and destruction.

Many wait until the building is engulfed in flames before they take action. A lot of Christians, pastors included, are afraid to say “sex;” it’s as if they’re still living in the 50’s. One friend told me of a church he attended. He loved their theology and the teaching; when I asked him if they ever addressed porn, he said, “Oh no, we never discuss that.” Once, when I purchased a book on sex addiction at a large Christian book store, the lady who checked me out hurriedly packed the book in a bag, as if I was buying a Playboy magazine. While we’re tip-toeing around the issue, the world is force-feeding its sexual filth down our throats and that of our kids. It’s time to stop this madness.