Every one of us will answer to God, especially those who lead. Our headship does not belong to us by right. It is given to us by God, and to God we will give account. I Corinthians 11:3: “But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.” Christ always did what pleased His Father. Men ought always to please Christ.

   So how do we live this way, not just under direct public scrutiny but also in the telltale pattern of our private lives? First, we have to be drawing on the power of God’s Spirit that indwells every true believer. That means we need to be sure we are really born again. Holding a position of Christian leadership does not make one a Christian. A man who consistently displays carnal behavior in his leadership calls into question whether he really knows God at all.

   Second, we must subject our concept of headship to what the Bible teaches leadership should be: selfless, loving, gentle, caring, humble—leading for the sake of those you lead rather than for yourself. Third, leading means you’re walking a path others can imitate. “Follow me as I follow Christ.” Set the example. Teach and preach, yes—but teach and preach with your ways, not just with your words. Don’t just tell them; show others how to live.

   Finally, be quick to ask forgiveness when you fail to lead like Christ. Doing so will communicate that your leadership is not aimed at bending others to your will. It will show those you lead that you keenly feel your accountability to the Lord Jesus. You will demonstrate to them that your leading is not about you; it’s about Him. If you model truly biblical headship, your life will be a case in point. Following Him makes our leadership matter—for time and for eternity. Soli Deo Gloria.


Drew Conley is pastor of Hampton Park Baptist Church in Greenville, South Carolina.