Wading through Singleness in Single Creek
- Thursday, June 02, 2011
You can tell in the movie, we’re not throwing rocks at families and marriage. We’re simply trying to educate married people in the church as well that this is the way the singles in your church feel, and these are the truths from the Bible that you’re complete in Christ. And marriage doesn’t do anything to complete you in Christ. It’s a very personal journey. We’ve had married people when we do screenings at churches with the film. And that’s why I know God was in the making of this film, because we have married people say: “I will never see single adults ever again in the same way. This just changed my perspective completely, what I thought I knew about single adults.” I think married people don’t realize their whole circle changes when [after marriage] suddenly all your friends are married friends. And very few married people hang out with single people and continue to be sensitive to those stresses that they feel in a Christian church. So that’s just been an amazing journey.
It seems like the documentary is not really offering a solution to a problem, but is simply raising the issue for people to consider who may have never thought about what it’s like to be single. Would you say that’s a fair assessment?
Absolutely. A lot of people have asked me. Who’s the intended audience for Single Creek? Life in this world is not easy to put in a box and wrap up with a nice pretty bow. And so I agree with that summary. Most people don’t know that over 90 percent of church pastors are married. And that just plays in to the awkwardness in the church, because I guess people assume that pastors lose their propensity to see their blinders. That’s the human condition. We only see what we’re surrounding ourselves with, right? But the 90 percent of pastors who are married probably aren’t that different from married people in the congregation that need to be exposed to the issues and then pray that the Lord will impress them to minister with and to singles in different ways. The idea of “singles ministry” as you saw in the film, well we kind of had a little fun with it. Because even the term itself is awkward both to singles and to married people.
One of the women you interviewed jokingly said of singles that “we’re relationally remedial,” and I just had to chuckle at that. Do you think that that is how singles are really viewed?
That was an amazing interview actually, because the girl you’re referencing, her name is Rebecca. We spent an hour and a half interviewing her and to be honest it was a very, very challenging interview because she was so introspective and so measuring every word that it took her forever to try and come out with answers. And yet God showed me when I was working on it in post-production that the way the story flowed, it was just amazing. It took three months to take 50 hours of film that we shot during the year and boil it down into a storyline. We had to kind of touch on the issues and make it flow in a way that comes in for a landing.
What God showed me is that those times when Rebecca shared in the film, I didn’t realize how powerful they were going to be, because I think that the idea is that singles need to be off in the corner. It just reinforces the awkwardness instead of integration which is kind of the message of the film. The church is beginning to reach out in a more effective way that is more integrated and less specializing ministries and labeling each other. You know, like the single parents in the movie—the single moms in the film—and the way they’re labeled. Again, hopefully people are seeing that the larger issue really is the human condition. The singles issue is just one of many in the church. It’s awkward.
I think the former homosexual in the film was probably the greatest example of sacrificial testimony. That’s another supernatural thing that happened is the way that this interview happened with this formerly openly gay person who told his story. In Single Creek we’re not really speaking to that issue [of homosexuality] exactly, but by God’s grace it’s affecting people even who are heterosexual and never struggled with same-sex attraction. They’re seeing it as a call to sacrifice, to surrender whatever it is that I’ve struggled with in my life. And for some reason, the awkwardness of the homosexual question is so divisive and the sin itself is seen as almost more sinful than any other kind of sin. And that’s just not biblical.
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