And that problem was this: How do two people - Keith who's developed the detailed knowledge of the Personality Types through two decades of study, and Berni who has the story-telling ability but nowhere near Keith's level of knowledge - actually sit down and write a book together? How do you actually do that?

Berni's issue was that he only knew one way to tell stories - and that was direct from him to the reader - in the first and second person, almost as a conversation. Telling the story in any other way would have been completely unnatural to him. It would have felt contrived.

And then - again over a coffee - Berni and Keith had one of those "God moments" - when the penny dropped.

Keith said to Berni "Then what you should do, is write the book in the way that comes naturally to you - let's both use the natural abilities that God's given us for His glory and not for ours. Isn't that in fact the very thing that we're going to be writing about?"

Eureka! There it was. It was obvious! It was the only answer - and it's an answer that lies at the very heart of what this book is all about. And that is this …

… that none of us can do it all on our own. The trick is discovering not just who God made us to be, but also who God made the others around us to be - and then together, living out who we are, by doing what each one of us was made to do. That way, we can achieve things together that we could never even have contemplated on our own.

It's the how to of living out a godly love for one another in community, rather than in isolation. And when we know how to live that way - not only can we achieve things together that we could never have achieved on our own, but we experience the indescribable sense of fulfilment that comes from discovering who God made us to be and what He made us to do!

Finally … finally, we know where we fit!

It sounds blindingly glimpsingly obvious when you say it like that, doesn't it?

But as we'll discover throughout this book - as obvious as it may be, most people simply haven't ever discovered who they really are, and so they're trying to do things they were never made to do, and expecting others to do the same … and then we wonder why it isn't working so well. More about that later.

So, that's been a round about way of getting to the bit that you really need to know before you start reading the book - and that's this.

The person writing, the person that you'll be having the conversation with, is Berni. Because that's the only way we could figure out how to write the book. And yet much of the wisdom and the research and the encouragement that you'll find in the pages of this book, come to you through Keith. They come from the long journey that God set before him over these last couple of decades.

Neither of us frankly cares about who gets the credit for this idea, or that chapter or this paragraph ... it just doesn't matter.

The only thing that matters to us, is that as you turn each page in this book, you discover with a new-found sense of awe and wonder, how beautifully God has made you; that you discover (or perhaps rediscover) your meaning and purpose in life and that the Spirit of God comes and breathes a fresh sense of anticipation into your heart, in the knowledge of the amazing things He has planned for you for the rest of your days here on this earth.

That's what really matters to us. And that's our prayer for you.

Berni + Keith

Chapter 1 - Ugly Duckling with Dream


"Kill me," said the poor bird; and he bent his head down to the surface of the water, and awaited death.

But what did he see in the clear stream below? His own image; no longer a dark, gray bird, ugly and disagreeable to look at, but a graceful and beautiful swan. To be born in a duck's nest in a farmyard is of no consequence to a bird, if it is hatched from a swan's egg. The Ugly Duckling - Hans Christian Andersen