Pray for the ability to see yourself as God sees you.  Ask God to help you view yourself from His perspective so you can develop a sense of security that can't be shaken.  Pray for God to do through you what you can't do for yourself.

Relate to men in healthy ways.  Most men are repulsed by insecurity in women, but respond positively to women who relate to them with confidence.  Give up unhealthy ways of relating to men that reveal insecurity, such as trying to control them, nagging them, or asking them to share too many details about their temptations and mistakes then obsessing over that knowledge.  Instead, ask God to empower you to relate to the men in your life with confidence - such as by setting pure boundaries with your boyfriend or by confronting your husband if he's engaging in sexual sin like watching pornography.

Relate to other women in healthy ways.  You can strengthen all of your relationships with the other women in your life if you relate to them with confidence.  From showing your daughter how faith can make her a strong person to enjoying close friendships, security will enrich your life.  So stop unhealthy practices that show insecurity, such as making comparisons between yourself and other women, and competing with other women in rivalries.  Instead, seek to encourage and support the other women in your life.

Change the way you feel by changing the way you think.  Every day, ask the Holy Spirit to renew your mind so you can think the right thoughts about each situation you encounter and have the security of knowing that God will help you get through anything well.  Whenever someone or something triggers insecurity in you, stop in your tracks and ask yourself how a secure person would respond.  Then do so - even if you feel insecure - and by taking the right actions, you'll develop a secure attitude, which will then make you feel less insecure in the future. 

Remember that whenever someone or something causes you to feel sad, confused, angry, or threatened, you have the power to choose whether or not it will assault your security.  Use this God-given power by thinking the right thoughts, which will help you choose the right actions, which then will change wrong feelings to right ones.

Keep trusting God.  When you make it a habit to trust God every day, your sense of security will grow - and it will never be taken away from you.

April 15, 2010

Adapted from So Long, Insecurity: You've been a Bad Friend to Us, copyright 2010 by Beth Moore. Published by Tyndale House Publishers, Carol Stream, Ill., www.tyndale.com.    

Beth Moore has written many best-selling books and is a dynamic teacher and a prolific Bible-study author whose public speaking engagements take her across the United States to challenge tens of thousands. Beth is focused on teaching women all over the world and is known and respected wherever she goes. She is a dedicated wife and mother of two adult daughters and lives in Houston, Texas, where she leads Living Proof Ministries and teaches an adult Sunday school class at her church. Beth is one of the best known women in the evangelical Christian market.  To learn more, visit Living Proof Ministries at www.lproof.org.