I had to look at my own heart and say God, show me what I need to do to be more like You even though I was convinced that day that they were both the problem. And even if they were the problem, my responsibility is to go to God and say: In what way does my heart need to change so I can be more pleasing to You in this situation?

The prayer: Change me, God, not all of them is usually where real change starts.

Start Talking to Yourself

Now you may be thinking "if I start talking to myself, then I really have gone over the edge!" But I found I needed to incorporate this principle in my life to keep me from going over the edge!

We are told in 2 Corinthians 10:5 to "demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God" and to "take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ." The reason we are to take every one of our thoughts captive is because our thoughts will wreak havoc in our lives if they are allowed to run loose. Bind them. Imprison them in the truth. Keep them from running rampant through your head!

In Psalms 42, the songwriter's solution to this problem was to start talking to himself:

Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me?

Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God. (verse 5)


Instead of listening to his downcast soul, the songwriter started telling it where to find its hope. He started telling himself what he would do: "Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him."

As you send out your S.O.S. (Sort the facts from the feelings, Offer your own heart for change, and Start telling yourself what to do) you will be able to cling to the truth and not fall so easily over the edge.

May 11, 2010

Cindi McMenamin is a national speaker and the author of several books, including When Women Walk Alone, When You're Running on Empty, and Women On the Edge. For more on her books or ministry, see www.StrengthForTheSoul.com.