Forgiving takes away the power others have over us

When we are holding on to something that was done to us and keep stewing over it and keep our anger over the issue, it really does have a hold over us. Just thinking of or seeing the person who hurt us will likely stir up a bunch of negative emotions again. And as long as we refuse to forgive them, they will hold power over us, whether they know it or not!  Even if that person is no longer in our life for whatever reason, they will still have control over us by their previous painful actions.  

God doesn’t want anyone to have this kind of power over us because it keeps us in bondage and Christ came to set us free from bondage! Forgiving those who have wronged us puts us and God back in the driver’s seat of our own lives instead of us being subject to the past. Instead, we will be subject to God’s amazing plan for our future!

“Christ has set us free to live a free life. So take your stand! Never again let anyone put a harness of slavery on you” (Galatians 5:1 MSG).

Forgiving allows us to experience God’s strength in our lives

In all honesty, forgiveness is hard. Forgiving someone who has done something extremely hurtful to us or someone we love does not come natural and it is in no way easy. And honestly, we can’t do it on our own. We have to rely on God’s strength to do it!  And anytime we allow God’s strength to work in our lives, wonderful things happen! When the power that raised Christ from the dead is working in you there is no limit to how God can use you and bless you!

“The Spirit of God, who raised Jesus from the dead, lives in you. And just as God raised Christ Jesus from the dead, he will give life to your mortal bodies by this same Spirit living within you” (Romans 8:11).

Looking at just some of the benefits of offer forgiveness, it shouldn’t be a surprise as to why God instructs us to forgive others. He really does have our best interest at hand when asking us to do things that are difficult. So if you are holding unforgiveness towards anybody, I encourage you to remind yourself of the benefits of letting that issue go and giving it up to God and ask Him for His help and strength to do so. It may be one of the hardest things you will do in your life, but it may also likely be one of the most rewarding!

Cortni Marrazzo currently resides in Spokane, Washington with her husband Jason and 3 year old son. She has a Degree in Biblical Discipleship and has a passion for ministry and encouraging the body of Christ. She and her husband currently serve as small group directors at their local church. You can contact her at or on Facebook.

Publication date: August 29, 2013