Communicate well with the world. Words are powerful tools to attract people in the world to relationships with Christ. Use words to communicate genuine interest, caring, and concern to the people you meet. Ask God to bring divine appointments your way and use your encounters with people throughout each day as conduits of His love. Recognize people who aren’t typically noticed, be kind to difficult people, and encourage people who are struggling. When others serve you (such as at a restaurant), be gracious and grateful. Be willing to listen to the stories that the people you meet want to share with you, and learn from them. Take full advantage of every opportunity you have to bless others through loving words.

Communicate well with God. Pray often to grow closer to God yourself, and intercede for others in prayer, asking God to work on their behalf. The words you communicate to God have great power in the spiritual realm. Approach God with reverence and confidence, freely sharing your thoughts and feelings with Him and listening for His responses.

Think before you speak. The words you speak reflect what’s going on in your mind. Every day, pray for the Holy Spirit to renew your mind. Refuse to dwell on negative thoughts that enter your mind, and choose to focus on positive thoughts. Before you speak, ask yourself whether or not the words you’re considering line up with God’s truth, demonstrate noble moral character, are right to be spoken at the time, are pure, are inspirational, are admirable, reflect excellence, and are praiseworthy.

Change bad habits into good ones. If you tend to spew angry words, practice not reacting in anger but instead choosing to extend grace. If you often become bitter after others hurt you, practice recalling how often God has forgiven you for your own mistakes, and ask Him to help you forgive others. If you tend to complain, practice focusing on what God can do in the midst of difficult circumstances rather than dwelling on the details of the difficulties themselves. If you often express fear, ask God to increase your faith so your words will be invitations for Him to act in situations that concern you. If you tend to grumble about situations that don’t go your way, practice reminding yourself that God is in ultimate control of them, choose to trust Him, and thank Him for the ways He has worked in your life so far.

Discern when to be silent. Pray for the wisdom you need to discern when you should speak and when you should remain silent. Whenever you’re not sure if you should say something, don’t. Learn how to listen well to other people and understand the true feelings behind their words. Learn how to listen well to God’s guidance about the timing and appropriateness of the words you’re considering speaking.

Pour positive words into the lives of others as often as you can. Don’t worry about running out of positive words to use to encourage others. Trust God to give you a steady flow of them, even when you’re discouraged yourself. If you choose to use your words to encourage others, God will bless your efforts by encouraging you. Be assured that each positive word you speak will cause something positive to happen – and it may be even be as significant as changing the course of someone’s life for the better.

Adapted from The Power of a Woman’s Words, copyright 2007 by Sharon Jaynes. Published by Harvest House Publishers, Eugene, Or.,

Sharon Jaynes is an international inspirational speaker and Bible teacher for women’s conferences and events. She is also the author of several books, including Becoming the Woman of His Dreams and Becoming a Woman Who Listens to God. Sharon and her husband, Steve, have one grown son, Steven, and live in North Carolina.