5 Ways to Help Your Husband Fall in Love with Your Business
- Friday, September 30, 2011
3. Give to get. Remember, your husband needs to be supported as well. You can’t expect him to champion you and your business if he feels like you don’t share in his life and his success. Be sensitive to his needs and reassure him that you will always be there to support him. Let him know that you are fully committed to him and the children first, and that the business will always take a back seat in your heart (even if it seems to take up all your time and attention at first). Ask him if he is fulfilled in his career. If so, explain to him that you want that same feeling of fulfillment. If not, let him know that you love him and want him to find a purpose-based life of abundance as well.
4. Understand his objections. Helping your husband fall in love with your business plan is not going to happen overnight. It’s going to be a series of conversations over time – even if you’ve been in business a long time. Create opportunities to have those intimate conversations and really listen to his concerns. Ask him to share what he is truly worried about – does he think you will be married to your business and you will neglect him or the children? Is it that he doesn’t trust you to succeed? Is it that he doesn’t want to be overshadowed? Get to the bottom of his fears so you can assure him he has nothing to worry about.
5. Be Prepared to compromise. As a couple, you are in this business together. It doesn’t matter if your husband has an official role in the company or not. The mere fact that you are a mompreneur means that your business will have an impact on his life – and your family. Just as you would resent your husband for making a decision to relocate the family for a job opportunity without your consent, he will feel the same way if you invest the entire savings account into your business without his approval. In addition to money, there will be certain things that he is “sensitive” about and you’ll need to acknowledge and honor those issues. For example, my husband feels neglected if I work in the office every night – even though I have spent the last six hours taking care of the children. He wants us to have time together in the evening. But I tend to want to take advantage of the quiet time when the kids are asleep to work. This situation was an ongoing source of argument and frustration. So we came to an agreement that I would spend specific nights each week with him and the other nights (mutually agreed upon) I could work as late as I needed to in the office. Whenever I stray from this promise, he gently reminds me (well, not always gently) and I return to honor our agreement.
Becoming a mompreneur is not about the income for most of us. It’s about making a contribution to the world. It’s about sharing our gifts and talents with others. It’s about growth and personal development. If your husband can see these benefits of your business, then he would be foolish not to give you his unconditional love and support!
What’s your husband’s biggest objection or concern about your business? And how to you address it with him? Share your tips with us here!
Theresa Ceniccola is a mother, writer and entrepreneur with a passion for connecting other Christian women and helping small business grow. As a marketing and PR professional, she launched TGC Communications, LLC in 1994 and has been working from home to serve clients and follow her passion while raising a family. She is also co-founder of www.writetohealth.com, a guided journaling practice dedicated to helping people discover the health benefits of writing. You can connect with Theresa on her blog at www.theresaceniccola.com.
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