My challenge to you is this: identify five people you know (or want to get to know better) who can lift you up – professionally, personally and/or spiritually. Create space on your calendar to spend more time with them. Surround yourself with people who allow you (and encourage you) to be the very best version of yourself.  To be the woman God created you to be.  

As Christians, we continue to pray for and minister to those people whom we are called to support (despite the potentially negative effect they have on our personal growth and happiness). In fact, sometimes the people who have this effect on us are related to us. We may not be able to avoid them entirely (and we may not WANT to do that), but it’s important to set boundaries (emotional and physical) when you are with them. Don’t be afraid to establish “off limits” topics or a “no criticizing” rule. Remember, it’s not our job to change them, but we can protect ourselves by shifting our perspective and changing the experience we have with them. And we can counterbalance the damaging effects of toxic relationships by fostering other healthy, inspiring friendships.

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Theresa Ceniccola is a mother, writer and entrepreneur with a passion for connecting other Christian women and helping small business grow. As a marketing and PR professional, she launched TGC Communications, LLC in 1994 and has been working from home to serve clients and follow her passion while raising a family.  She is also co-founder of, a guided journaling practice dedicated to helping people discover the health benefits of writing. You can connect with Theresa on her blog.

Publication date: July 31, 2012