shut up and listen more. And you know what? I began to learn stuff. I began to witness a depth of wisdom that I had ignored and squandered to my own hurt for far too many years.

Often, as I was trying to break down the front door of the house by beating on it (frequently the male’s frontal approach to any challenge), Bonnie was quietly walking around to the back of the house, finding an open door, and walking through the house to open the front door that I was still beating on.

If we can simply learn to lead with the heart as we listen, relationships will improve. We may find that there is less distance between us than we thought. And when there are real differences that need to be discussed, we will have a bridge of relationship and mutual respect on which to travel from our side to the other. Paul was a man who had seen his share of conflict, yet as he grew in Christ he realized, “For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace” (1 Corinthians 14:33, KJV). Life is too short not to build relationships. 

Steve Diggs is best known for 2 internationally acclaimed seminars that he has presented at nearly 500 churches. Steve can be reached through either of the websites below, or call him at 615-300-8263.

No Debt No Sweat! Christian Money Management Seminar teaches God's people how to use God's money God's way. More at


ReTooled & ReFueled: The Essential Christian Life-Skills Seminar
 shows Christians how to live for the beautiful bye and bye—while dealing with the nasty now and now.  More