Money Questions for Dating Couples
- Wednesday, July 11, 2012
Editor's note: This article was originally published on SmartStepFamilies.com.
When financial guru Howard Dayton wrote a book entitled Money & Marriage God’s Way (Moody Pub, Chicago, 2009) I had the privilege of contributing to the chapter on blended families. The book presents an outstanding overview of wise financial practices based on God’s purposes for money. Howard also presents a list of questions couples should discuss before they marry. Of course, every couple has specific circumstances that they should address before they marry, but in general these questions are a must to discuss. Print this list and starting talking.
Specific questions for pre-stepfamily couples:
1. What are your financial obligations to your ex-spouse (child support, alimony, other)?
2. How likely are child support payments to increase or decrease in the future? When will they end? Are you responsible for any additional expenses, such as education, for them?
3. When one of us dies, who will receive the assets brought into our marriage? What happens to them when the surviving spouse dies or remarries? What are the financial plans for your children should you die or be unable to work?
4. What expectations do you have for me to support your family?
5. Who is responsible for the children’s health insurance? If an ex-spouse is unwilling to do their part, how will we handle it?
6. Do you have a retirement plan? If so, how much is in it? Is any part of it obligated to a former spouse?
7. Do you have any financial commitments to your parents, siblings, or other family members?
8. Was your previous spouse a poor money manager? How will we unify our finances?
9. How should we use what we receive in child support and alimony? What do we do when we don’t receive scheduled child support?
10. Will we both work outside of the home? How will we handle childcare?
11. How will we handle the holidays? How do you feel about gift-giving?
12. Are we comfortable with one checking account or will we have “yours,” “mine,” and “ours”?
13. What do we want to teach our children about money? Are “yours” and “mine” children used to different spending styles? Will we give allowances and in what amount? How will we resolve differences in spending/saving/allowance practices?
14. After the wedding, how do you feel about changing the deeds/titles/beneficiaries to insurance, car titles, house deeds, and wills?
15. Since divorce does not eliminate mutually shared debts, how will you remove yourself from these joint debts? (This may be as simple as closing a credit card account or as complex as refinancing a mortgage.)
Questions regarding your values:
1. Who is going to be the breadwinner (one or both)?
2. If both are breadwinners, how will we care for the children (day care, school, after school, etc.)?
3. Are you a hard worker? What career do you want to pursue? What further education will you need?
4. What percentage of our income do you want to give? Who do you prefer to give to—church, ministries, the poor and needy, etc.?
5. How much of our income do you want to save?
6. What is your attitude toward debt? When should we use it? Is paying off debt a very high priority for you?
7. Who will handle the bookkeeping and paying the bills? How often should we meet to review our finances?
8. How do you see us becoming one with our finances? How should we combine our finances? Is there any sense of “my money” and “your money”? If so, how can we overcome this challenge?
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