• Vary times, positions, and places. Be creative. Discover new times, positions, and places for your lovemaking to keep it fun.

• Learn each other's erogenous zones. Take the time to figure out how you can bring each other the most pleasure by arousing these zones during your lovemaking.

Adapted from Making Love Meaningfully: The Purpose of Marital Intimacy, copyright 2003 by Charles M. and Virginia Sell. Published by Broadman & Holman Publishers, Nashville, Tn., www.broadmanholman.com.

Charles Sell is professor emeritus of educational ministries at Trinity Evangelical Divinity School in Deerfield, Illinois. He has contributed articles to several prominent publications, including Christianity Today, Moody, and The Evangelical Beacon. He is also the author of numerous books, including Family Ministry, Achieving the Impossible, Intimate Marriage, Unfinished Business: Helping Adult Children Resolve Their Past, and Power Dads.

Virginia Sell helped her husband conduct research for Making Love Meaningfully: The Purpose of Marital Intimacy. She joined him to interview many couples through surveys, marriage seminars, and counseling sessions.