How to Share the Work and Joy of Your Household
- Tuesday, October 12, 2010
Manage your time and schedule well. Make sure that your family's schedule reflects your priorities. Say "no" to activities that aren't important so you can say "yes" to what matters most. Don't let what's urgent distract you from pursuing what's important, since very moment is a gift from God. Limit the amount of time each of your family members spends with technology at home -such as searching the Internet, plugging into music, watching TV, or texting friends - so you all enough face time with each other to maintain healthy family relationships. Pay attention to the rhythms of your life as you go through various seasons, and prepare yourself for times of extra busyness by planning for them and adjusting your schedule so your family won't suffer too much stress.
Manage your home and property well. Aim for a home that's clean enough to be healthy but dirty enough to be happy. Clean to your family's standards while still maintaining a spirit of fun in your relationships. Simplify by refusing to accumulate more material possessions than you truly need. Teach your kids to do whatever household tasks they're old enough to do rather than acting as their personal maid; responsibility helps them learn valuable skills that will prepare them for living independently.
Manage your menus and meals well. Work together to be able to enjoy nutritious and delicious family meals. Divide up the work of menu planning, grocery shopping, cooking, and cleanup. Arrange your family's schedule so you can all have dinner together at home as many nights as possible, since that's crucial to your family's health.
Manage your relationships with family and friends well. Design your family's schedule so you can protect and nourish important relationships. Devote time regularly to spend with your spouse, each of your kids, and close friends so you can stay connected, care for each other, and help each other do God's will.
Manage your finances well. Develop a financial philosophy to guide your household budget after praying and thinking about what you and your spouse value most in life. Work together to keep track of earnings and expenses regularly. Spend conservatively to avoid debt, and give, save, and invest generously. Model healthy financial practices for your kids.
Manage special events well. Carefully plan special events such as birthdays, Christmas and other holidays, and vacations. Use these special times to enjoy life together and build positive memories.
Manage yourself well. Make time regularly for self-care and personal development so you won't be too depleted physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually to care well for others in your home.
Adapted from The Busy Couple's Guide to Sharing the Work and the Joy, copyright 2009 by Kathy Peel. Published by Picket Fence Press, an imprint of Tyndale House Publishers, Carol Stream, Ill., www.tyndale.com.
Kathy Peel is founder and CEO of Family Manager, a company that trains women in the art of family management. Her 21 books have sold more than 2 million copies - the latest of which are The Busy Mom's Guide to a Happy, Organized Home (winner of the 2009 Gold Mom's Choice Award) and Desperate Households. Besides her weekly Family Manager blog on ParentDish, Kathy is AOL's Family Coach, a popular social media guest expert, and on the board of experts for Parenting and InternetSafety.com. You may also find her in FamilyFun, All You, Woman's World, Real Simple, and HomeLife. A keynote speaker and media personality, Kathy has appeared on programs such as Oprah, The Early Show, The Today Show, and HGTV.
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