Can you delight in your husband and rejoice over him, simply because of who he is – one who is loved by his heavenly father and by you? Think about the joy and comfort you have, knowing God feels that way about you. Now what would it add to your husband’s life if he knew you truly delighted in him?

6. He loved you so much He was willing to die so He wouldn’t have to live without you. For God so loved the world that He gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. (John 3:16)

I once heard it said: don’t marry someone you believe you can live with. Marry someone you know you can’t live without. Have you cemented your love for your husband so deeply that you are convinced you would not want to live without him? In many ways, that’s how God felt toward you. He found a way so that the two of you would never have to be separated.

7. He loved you in spite of yourself and still does.  But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 5:8)

Would you show sacrificial love to your husband even if he didn’t deserve it? Even if he had turned his back on you?

Scripture tells us: “This is the kind of love we are talking about – not that we  once upon a time loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to clear away our sins and the damage they’ve done to our relationship with God. My dear, dear friends, if God loved us like this, we certainly ought to love each other.” (1 John 4:10-11, The Message).

Now, from what you’ve seen about God’s persevering love for you, can you love your husband:

  • Even when he’s annoying you?
  • Even when he’s inconsiderate?
  • Even when he’s clearly ‘unlovable’?
  • Even when he’s clearly wrong and unrepentant?

Because we are not like God who never grows weary, we must know how to renew love for our husbands. We simply can’t wait for the feelings to be there. I’m so glad God doesn’t depend on His feelings for us. He has determined to love us, regardless. We must love our husbands that way, too. Because the world will take it out of us. Pain will take it out of us. The everyday stuff of life will take it out of us. But thanks be to God that He can replenish it in us.

In Isaiah 40:28-31, you have encouragement about this God who can fill you up with love for your husband: 

Do you not now? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth.

  • He will not grow tired or weary and his understanding no one can fathom.
  • He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.
  • Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall;
  • But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.
  • They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.”

How do you renew that love you once had for your husband? How do you get back that delight in him when he – or something in this life  – has taken it out of you? By waiting on the Lord for His strength to love your husband through you and by going back to what first drew the two of you together.

Sometimes the easiest way to fall back in love with your man is to remember what first drew you to him. Next time you’re tempted to start listing what your husband is doing wrong, I encourage you to start listing what you love about him. It’s what God would do, if He were in your shoes. By remembering what your husband does right, it will not only turn your heart back toward him, but it will be an outward sign to others that you love your man as God has loved you.

Cindi McMenamin is a national speaker and the author of several books including When Women Walk Alone, Women on the Edge, and When A Woman Inspires Her Husband (from which this article is an excerpt). She and her husband, Hugh, have also co-authored the book When Couples Walk Together. For resources and free articles of encouragement to strengthen your soul or your marriage, see her website: