Notice what she worries about and reassure her.  Your wife is a security seeker.  Maybe she’s worried about an upcoming move, a child’s development, or financial pressures.  Strengthen yourself first in the Lord so you can then encourage your wife.  Hold her and reassure her often that everything is going to be okay.  

Bring her an unexpected gift.  Most women love gifts and it doesn’t really matter whether they come in small or big packages.  Surprise her with a just-because bouquet of flowers or box of chocolates.  Maybe she’s compiling a wish list online of things she wants.  Take a peek and surprise her with one item from her list.    

Open up to her about yourself.  The strong, silent type works in the movies, but not in real life.  Your wife wants to hear about your life.  She wants to know what is making you happy and what is stressing you out.  This is how she connects with you.  She actually cares about what you had for lunch and the strange thing you saw on the way home.  Don’t reply to your wife’s questions with one word answers. Elaborate.  

Which of these activities do you think your wife would enjoy?  If you’re not sure, you can always ask her.  She’ll love that you were reading an article about how to make her happy! 

Arlene Pellicane is a speaker and author of 31 Days to a Happy Husband and 31 Days to a Younger You.  She has been a guest on Family Life Today, The 700 Club, Turning Point with David Jeremiah, and The Hour of Power.  Arlene and her husband James live in San Diego with their three children.  Visit Arlene’s website at

Publication date: December 10, 2012