Good point. Heterosexuals do have a dismal divorce rate. But you don't alter the standard to accommodate the people; you help the people reach the standard.

Recent research on same-sex unions shows that homosexuals have an even higher "divorce" rate than heterosexuals. Sweden, which sanctioned same-sex unions during the 1990s, found that male homosexual "marriages" have a divorce rate 50 percent higher than their married heterosexual counterparts, while lesbian couples have a divorce rate 167 percent higher!

Christians quote the Old Testament to prove homosexuality is wrong. The Old Testament also says children should be stoned for talking back to their parents and that you shouldn't eat pork, but you seem to ignore those.

The admonition against homosexuality in the Old Testament is repeated in the New Testament, unlike some other points of Old Testament law. Romans 1:26-27: "For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error."

Jesus did not condemn homosexuality. Jesus was loving.

Jesus was loving (and still is), and He did condemn homosexuality. He condemned homosexuality by never contradicting God's law. He came to fulfill the law, not destroy the law. Furthermore, Jesus specifically sanctioned heterosexual marriage in Matthew 19:4-6: And He answered and said, "Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ' for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'?

"So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate."

Denying homosexuals who love each other the right to marry is cruel and unloving.

I'm sorry it looks that way. Homosexuals are not my enemies. Homosexuals, some of whom I have known as friends, co-workers and relatives, chose alternate lifestyles that cannot be reconciled with the orthodox tenets of faith. When I die and give account for my life, I will not stand before a jury of my peers, I will stand before One, the great I Am who, although forgiving and merciful, is also rather fastidious about principles and moral absolutes.

We are a people of principle and a nation of laws (or at least we were until all these mayors, governors and judges started suspending them willy-nilly). The conversation about same-sex marriage is about honoring and preserving the God-ordained institution of marriage between one man and one woman, an institution that has served nations for thousands of years.

On some levels, this stir over homosexuality is not new. We Internet-shopping, latte-sipping folks like to think we are forever new and cutting edge, but we are not. Homosexuals and homosexuality can be found throughout the pages of time. But this much is new: for the first time ever homosexuals are on the verge of normalizing and codifying same-sex marriage. The collapse of the Roman Empire was preceded by the demise of the family and loosening of sexual mores. This flap we're in now is actually an old story with a new twist.

The time to speak up is now. Join the conversation. Join the conversation with your friends, your family, your pastors, your local newspaper, your state lawmakers and your national representatives. Above all, join it with truth and love.

For more information on the same-sex marriage debate and resources on how you can have an impact, visit: Culture Shock Monday: A Same-Sex Marriage Resource Guide.

Columnist and speaker Lori Borgman is the author of Pass the Faith, Please. Comments may be sent to her at

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