Ready to Turn Pro?

Maybe that’s not enough. Maybe it is possible to become so good at being single that it makes you a bad candidate for marriage. After so many years of being single, it’s hard not to feel like I reached professional status, like I’m in the major leagues. It’s not something I set out to excel at, but as they say, practice makes perfect.

I embarked on this journey six months ago, hoping to learn something about myself and about this weird “still single” state so many of us find ourselves living in. Mostly I uncovered what I already knew on some level: Dating is not for the faint of heart. It takes work, especially after college when you’re not thrown into an environment with hundreds of eligible guys every day. And it’s trickier today than it used to be. We’re single longer and that can make relationships, when we do find them, harder to navigate.

At the end of the day, though, I still believe looking for love is a worthwhile pursuit. Not one that I want to consume my life, but it will always be on my mind. Of course, that doesn’t mean I’ll ever find an answer to that one nagging question: “Why is a nice girl like you still single?” Then again, will anyone?

Wendy Lee Nentwig is the editor of a digital download site in Nashville, Tennessee, which is another way of saying she gets paid to listen to music for a living. She’s lived everywhere from Amsterdam to New York City to Southern California and found that dating is just as nerve-wracking in any zip code.

Read the fifth article in this Singles series, "Dating Overkill," here.