Jesus lived his life as a single adult till his death. Because he lived his life as a single adult, he understands every aspect of what you and I are experiencing today. This series examines the "singleness" of Christ in relation to our singleness with the hope you will be encouraged to walk this journey you have been given. A journey that not only leads to the cross for our salvation but to his resurrection for our future.

Jesus Knew the Responsibility of Taking Care of His Family.  Do You?

Bam, bam, bam. Ugh. It's just not coming down that fast! It's another day at my mom's home where I was recruited to help take down old tile in the bathroom. Sure, the vanity was easy to get out and the toilet, well, kind of messy but not too bad. But the tile, that is a whole other story. For some reason I had in my mind it would be so easy to take down. I mean, I had seen it on TV, hadn't I? Just a quick knock with a hammer and whoosh, it should come flying off. Yeah, right! Well, two days later, hundreds of hammer hits, small cuts, not too mention aching arm muscles, it was finally done ... well, the tile was. Now came the work of the cleanup, putting in new tile, a new toilet and a vanity, plus sanding and painting. But you know, it's been worth it. To see my mom smile. To know how much it means to her to have me help now that she is alone.

Last fall, after 10 years of seeing my dad die of Alzheimer's, he passed away. Prior to his death, there had been a slow spiral downward. This spiral was not only in the loss of my dad's mind and body but also in the loss of what my dad could do around the house. My dad, when times were better, would say "if it couldn't be fixed with duct tape and spray paint, then it couldn't be fixed." Year after year, my dad needed more help from me and my siblings, the neighbors and friends. At first it was something small like holding a ladder or helping to carry something heavy. Then it was driving him somewhere, fixing him something to eat or helping him remember a date. Then at the onset of the worse of part of the disease, my dad needed help walking, taking a shower and remember his children's names. He became bedridden. My mom took care of him 24/7 only with the occasional nurse to help. I moved in months prior to my dad's death to help take care of him. Being single made it more convenient. Perhaps the fact the Jesus was single helped with his family, too.

Jesus, like me, was the first born. Perhaps, being the first born, he felt more responsibility to take care of his family. I don't know as I am sure there are many who were born second or last who have felt the same responsibility. From what we know of history, being single during the biblical days was not the norm. Most people were married young and lived with their relatives, helping to raise the next generation. However, we know that Jesus did not marry. From the age of 12 we learn that it was made clear of who he was and his responsibility toward mankind. Slowly, Mary and Joseph had to let go of their son. However, we know that Joseph did teach Jesus a trade of carpentry. Jesus used that trade right up until he started his public ministry. This trade provided additional financial support for his family. Something children did in Bible times. Something children today don't do enough.

Isn't this the carpenter? Isn't this Mary's son and the brother of James, Joseph, Judas and Simon? Aren't his sisters here with us?" And they took offense at him (Mark 6:3).

Even though Jesus knew his profession was not to be a carpenter forever, he still learned a craft and supported his family until God changed things. Just like Jesus, God has placed me in places not because of what I wanted but because of what HE wanted. As a single, I have been able to move with more flexibility than my married siblings. Jesus' singleness allowed him more freedom to be available for his family and eventually his ministry.