If It's Righteous, Have A Plan:

When you are righteously angry, have a plan of how to handle things so God gets the glory. Make sure your anger is consistent with the holy and righteous character of God. I like to use Facebook to share my agreement with how abortion is wrong. I am known to like or share anything against those who support abortion. Also, as a teacher of God's word, I do not have a problem speaking out against certain lifestyles, such sex outside of marriage or any other sin that is in the Bible. Not to condemn or destroy people but to draw them to Christ. To show them the freedom in following Christ and doing things His way.

But He, being compassionate, forgave their iniquity, and did not destroy them; And often He restrained His anger, And did not arouse all His wrath (Psalm 78:38).

The Solution: 

Anger should not be sinful. Don't allow the enemy to take control by submitting to your flesh. Our goal as Christians is always to do the Father's will. As we spend time with the Lord, reading and studying his word, praying, serving and tithing, you will begin to see how your anger will change from being all about you to being all about God. From being about loving only you to loving others.

“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you (Ephesians 4:26-27, 31-32).

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs (1 Corinthians 13:4-5).

This mom who went super nova nuts on me was probably late getting to the store. She might have had a fight with her husband, got a bill she wasn't expecting, or found out her mom has cancer. The true anger wasn't what she thought I had done but in fact, the pressure value to unresolved anger. By not dealing with her anger, she allowed it to build up. I am just thankful that God had placed me her life that day to remind her to calm down and realized what she was doing. Did she get my address so she could write me a thankful note? Uhhh, no. But I did pray that she got somewhere and thought about what I said, even going to God to asking forgiveness and help with what was really wrong. Then she, like us all, will begin to heal.

Kris Swiatocho is the President and Director of TheSinglesNetwork.org Ministries and FromHisHands.com Ministries. Kris has served in ministry in various capacities for the last 25 years. An accomplished trainer and mentor, Kris has a heart to reach and grow leaders so they will in turn reach and grow others. She is the author of three books: Singles and Relationships: A 31-Day Experiment (co-authored with Dick Purnell of Single Life Resources); From the Manger to the Cross: The Women in Jesus' Life; and the most recent, Jesus, Single Like Me with Study Questions (includes a leader's guide and conference/retreat of the same name). Kris is currently working on her fourth book: FAQ's of Singles Ministry coming 2013.

TheSinglesNetwork.org Ministries helps churches, pastors and single adult leaders evaluate, develop and support their single adult ministries through high-energy speaking engagements, results-oriented consulting and training and leadership development conferences and seminars. Click here to request a FREE "How to Start a Single Adult Ministry" guide.  

FromHisHands.com Ministries is Kris' speaking ministry. If you've ever heard her speak, you know that Kris is the kind of speaker who keeps the crowd captivated, shares great information and motivates people to make a difference in the lives of those around them! She speaks to all church audiences on everything from "first impression" ministry to women's topics to singles and young adults. She can speak on a Sunday morning, at a woman's retreat or for a single adults conference. Bring Kris to your church today!

Publication date: May 28, 2013