These boundaries and plan of attack must be set in advance, before we enter into any relationship (friendship, dating or otherwise), so we are prepared for any temptation or struggle we may face. 

In order to be a man or woman of integrity, it is imperative we have a foundation based upon God and Scripture.  Relationships are hard enough when we are trying to do the right thing with the Lord, let alone doing what we know is to be wrong without Him.

He (Job) is the finest man in all the earth—a man of complete integrity.  He fears God and will have nothing to do with evil (Job 1:8).

When I am in a dating relationship, I want all of my friends to meet and know her—not only to show her off (as a proud boyfriend), but also to get insight from people I trust.  If your friend is “hiding” the fact that she is spending time with a guy, chances are she already knows in her heart what she is doing is wrong.

As a friend, the first thing to do is pray for her.  In Philippians 4:6, we are told to pray about everything.  This is one of those situations where you need to allow the Lord to speak to you and guide you.  Consider when you were in her situation and reflect upon how you would have received a friend’s rebuke. 

When you approach your friend, do it out of love not condemnation (leave that for the Holy Spirit).  First Corinthians 13:4-5 is not limited to marriages, but applies to all of us: 

Love is patient and kind.  Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude.  Love does not demand its own way.

The Lord and His Word do not need our help to transform lives.  Sometimes we need to get out of the way for God to work.  Be careful to not force your thoughts, beliefs and opinions on her or wave verses in her face to make her change.  Share your own experience and what God has taught you—but do it with love.

But the way of the wicked is like complete darkness.  Those who follow it have no idea what they are stumbling over (Proverbs 4:19).

Oftentimes when we are in a relationship, we lose focus on the things that are most important in our lives; we don’t even realize the relationship is leading us astray.

SHE SAID:  When I first read your question, the first image that popped into my mind was Robot from Lost in Space.  Remember that campy, ‘60s sci-fi television show? 

As a young child in the ‘70s, I remember watching the reruns of it on the weekends, as the Robinson family (yes, it was a space-age version of Swiss Family Robinson) was stuck in space and trying to figure out how to get back to Planet Earth.

Precocious, youngest son Will Robinson was always getting into some sort of mischief in the space ship or on the random planet that the family had landed on, while drifting out in the cosmos.  When Will was about to do something foolish, Robot (with flailing “arms”) was always nearby to warn:  “Danger, Will Robinson!  DANGER!!!”