Fix the simple things that often alienate singles in the church.  Make sure that sermons and Bible study lessons apply to singles as well as married people.  Invite singles to serve on church committees and planning teams.  Design special events such as potluck meals to take the single lifestyle into account.  If you offer discounts to any event, be sure that they’re not just for couples.

Seek to meet some of single people’s unique needs.  Invite singles to celebrate holidays with you.  Offer to help them with things like tax preparation and home and car maintenance and repair (these things could especially bless single parents).  Strive to become a vital part of a single person’s network of friends.  Know that single people want to celebrate important moments in their lives, just as married people celebrate their anniversaries and children’s birthdays.  Help single people celebrate things like getting a new job, graduating from graduate school, or buying a new home.

Adapted from A Match Made in Heaven: How Singles and the Church Can Live Happily Ever After, copyright 2003 by Wendy Widder.  Published by Kregel Publications, a division of Kregel, Inc., Grand Rapids, MI. Wendy Widder graduated from Cedarville University in Cedarville, Ohio, and is completing a Master of Divinity degree at Grand Rapids Theological Seminary.  She is the author of Living Whole Without a Better Half.