Embrace positive thinking.  Focus your mind on positive thoughts and avoid negative ones. Whenever a negative thought comes into your mind, replace it with a positive one and ponder that positive thought.

Forgive.  Choose to forgive people who have hurt you. Ask God to help you do so. Enjoy the freedom you experience when you do.

Get enough rest and sleep.  Know that your body can focus its energy on healing while you sleep.

Eat a nutritious diet.  Avoid foods with lots of sugar and refined white flour, and eat wholesome foods that will boost your energy level - like fresh fruits and vegetables, nuts and whole grains.

Get moving outside.  Get enough exercise and sunlight to maintain healthy moods.

Share your burdens with people who care.  Surround yourself with a strong social support network of friends and family members with whom you can talk about your grief and healing.

Consider counseling.  Look for a trained professional who can help you if you feel stuck in one of the stages of grief. Ask someone in your church's office to recommend a good pastoral counselor.

Keep a journal.  Regularly write down what God is showing you as you move closer to healing.

Use your talents.  Serve other people in need to take your focus off your own problems. Pursue a hobby or take a class to develop a new skill.


Adapted from One Foot on a Banana Peel ..., copyright © 2003 by Jane E. Harber.  Published by Xulon Press, www.XulonPress.com.

Jane Harber became intimately acquainted with grief after the death of husband Ray in 1988.  In the 15 years that followed, 16 additional family members and friends passed away.  Other crises occurred as well, any one of which could have devastated Jane and her children, Christian and Brianna.  During those years, Jane worked in prison ministry, and she became a licensed belief therapist in 2001.  She now works at providing in-home care for senior citizens in the west Texas area.