When you’re in your 20s, you stand at the crossroads of many vital decisions. What career will you choose? Who will you marry? Where will you live? What church will you join? Potential choices swirl around you during this busy decade, and the quality of your life depends on how well you choose.


The answer to one big question – “Who am I?” – will help you determine how to best answer all the others. Authors Craig Dunham and Doug Serven have written the book TwentySomeone to help people in their 20s find themselves in their decade of transition. 


Dunham, the director of programs and marketing for the Glen Eyrie Group (the camping/conference ministry of The Navigators), and Serven, the Reformed University Fellowship campus minister at the University of Oklahoma, recently discussed with Crosswalk.com the importance of living strategically as a “TwentySomeone.”


Discern God’s Voice


Dunham and Serven emphasize the importance of discerning God’s voice filtering through your own desires and pressure from others (such as parents and teachers) as you face key decisions. They write, “The goal isn’t to figure out the kind of person we want to be or the identity we think we should assume, but who it is God has made us to be and how He wants us to be identified.” 


The key to doing that is evaluating your experiences, says Dunham. “Discerning God’s voice is very much wrapped in the context of our experiences, which we need to be regularly and intentionally evaluating, because experience is not the best teacher…evaluated experience is. We need to evaluate our experiences through the matrix of his stated meansthe Word of God and other people.


Serven says that listening is a vital part of the process. “As we interact with and listen to what others see in our lives, we better understand ourselves. As we better understand ourselves and how God has uniquely made us, we perhaps better listen to others. Its a symbiotic relationship. We have the Word, our community, pastors, friends, family and historic Christianity to help guide us along the way.

Choose the “Biblical Dream” over the “American Dream”


Too often, the authors say, young adults set out to pursue the “American Dream” of material success when they should be pursuing the “Biblical Dream” of spiritual growth. “God calls us to be defined by Him, not by the things the world says are important,” they write. 


Deciding to pursue God’s values over those of the world is important to do while you’re establishing your lifestyle, says Serven. “Its in your 20s that you set the patterns and appetites for things, jobs, paychecks, titles, vacations, etc. As you increase your standard of living, it is harder and harder to go back to a  simpler lifestyle. The time to decide and live by what you decide is earlier rather than later.