Figure out where you are on life’s journey, and ask God for what you need there. Every person’s journey through life features destinations that are similar to the ones that the Bible describes God leading the Israelites through. Where are you on your journey right now? You may be in “Egypt,” where you’re in bondage, out of control, oppressed, or separated from God’s presence. You may be “encamped,” where you’re waiting, God may seem silent, doors aren’t opening for you to move forward, or you feel the need to rest or heal. You may be “setting out,” where you feel an urge to take the next step, God seems to be speaking to you and guiding you, doors may be opening for you to move forward, or you’re sensing the need for change (even if it’s hard or uncomfortable). Or, you may be in the “Promised Land,” where God is giving you a desire or answering a prayer, you feel that you’re where you belong, you’re joyful and anticipating more blessings, or you’re passionate about possessing and defending what God has given to you. Wherever you are right now, ask God for what you need and trust Him to provide it.

Connect with others in the best ways. Learn how to relate to other people in the distinctive ways that God has wired you to do so best. Keep in mind that you should live to please God alone, not other people. So don’t worry about what other people think of you if you’re faithfully following where God leads you. Be open with others, but also set boundaries to protect yourself from unsafe people who don’t treasure you, as God does. Figure out your social setting preference (whether you prefer getting together with people individually, in small groups, or in a crowd), your primary relationship structure (leading, partnering, or serving), and the needs that you’re most compelled to help meet (practical, emotional, relational, or intellectual). Apply that information when you’re trying to discern specific ways in which you can best contribute to the world and honor God. Rely on the Holy Spirit to lead you to the best ways to relate to others and serve them.

Take good care of yourself. Invest regularly in your own health emotionally, mentally, spiritually, socially, and physically so you’ll be well-prepared to serve God and others.

Do what God wants you to do with your life. Focus each day on doing just what God wants you to do, when He wants you to do it, with love. Don’t set unrealistic goals. Instead, set goals that fit well into your life and simply do what you can, the best you can. Keep in mind that the process of discovering who God made you to be and putting that into action will enfold throughout your entire lifetime. Each step you take will bring you closer to fulfilling God’s purposes for your life.

Adapted from You’re Already Amazing: Embracing Who You Are, Becoming All God Created You to Be, copyright 2012 by Holley Gerth. Published by Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group, Grand Rapids, Mich.,

Holley Gerth is an award-winning writer, licensed counselor, certified life coach, and speaker. She is cofounder of (in)courage, an online destination for women, which received more than one million page views in its first six months. She also reaches out to readers through her popular blog, Heart to Heart with Holley and through her partnership with DaySpring, a subsidiary of Hallmark. Holley lives in Arkansas with her husband, Mark.

Whitney Hopler is a freelance writer and editor who serves as both a contributing writer and the editor of’s site on angels and miracles ( Contact Whitney at: send in a true story of an angelic encounter or a miraculous experience like an answered prayer.

Publication date: March 5, 2012