How to Open Your Hearts in Marriage
- Wednesday, February 27, 2013
Pursue growth both individually and as a couple. Help each other live up to your fullest potential personally, and in your marriage. Keep in mind that whenever God truly calls one of you to do something, His call includes your spouse and involves the two of you working together. Never try to move forward independently, excluding your spouse from your plans. Instead, figure out how you how can best work together on various career and volunteer work opportunities, or decide not to pursue them if you can’t work together well on them. Encourage each other to discover, develop, and use each other’s God-given talents to help make the world a better place. Build strong friendships with others so you’re not relying just on each other for friendship.
Schedule sex. Set up regular appointments with your spouse to have sex. Doing so will help ensure that sexual intimacy remains an important priority in your relationship, and also help you all mentally prepare for it so you’ll each be more likely to be in the mood for sex than you would be if you simply left sex to chance.
Invite the Holy Spirit to fully guide you every day. Rather than just following your own agenda for the each day, pray for the Holy Spirit to renew your mind so you can approach situations with the wisdom of God’s guidance. Also ask the Holy Spirit to help you develop character traits that will make you a better person and spouse: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
Deliberately seek God together. Rather than just going through religious activities and hoping to experience God in haphazard ways, pursue God with a passion together with your spouse. Incorporate prayer and Bible reading into your daily lives. Discuss what you’re learning and how God is at work in your lives.
Respond rather than reacting to conflict between you. Take a time-out from arguing when either of you becomes too upset to discuss the issue calmly and productively. Use the time during your break to pray. Then come back together to talk again and work to resolve the issue in the best way possible.
Regularly ask yourself one key question to evaluate your progress. Ask yourself: “How would I like to be married to me?” on a regular basis. Pray about whatever personal issues you need to address, asking God to continue to shape you into the type of spouse – and person – that He wants you to become.
Adapted from The Best Advice I Ever Got on Marriage: Transforming Insights from Respected Husbands and Wives, compiled by Jim Daly, copyright 2012 by Focus on the Family. Published by Worthy Publishing, a division of Worthy Media, Inc., Brentwood, Tn., www.worthypublishing.com.
Jim Daly is president of Focus on the Family and host of its National Radio Hall of Fame-honored daily broadcast, heard by more than 2.9 million listeners a week on more than 1,000 radio stations across the United States. Daly is also a regular panelist for The Washington Post/Newsweek blog “On Faith” alongside leading academics and theologians. He has received the 2008 World Children’s Center Humanitarian Award, the 2009 Children’s Hunger Fund Children’s Champion Award, and the 2010 HomeWord Family Ministry Award. Daly has been married to his wife, Jean, since 1986. They have two sons and reside in Colorado Springs, Co.
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Publication date: February 27, 2013
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