- Neil Clark Warren for the eHarmony Research Library
- 2003 20 Feb
Life is never an easy road, but I want to urge you to struggle with the great questions of life until you gain an inner peace with them.
Some people I know are so concerned about what is going to happen when they get old or when they die, or when someone dear to them dies, but they never stop to take time to deal with those issues and get peace about them.
Because they don't have peace about these issues, they pull themselves down. They feel badly about their inability to deal with the challenges they are likely to face eventually.
If you possibly can, provide yourself with a time and eternity perspective that allows you to feel peaceful about the long-term factors of your life. If you know that when challenges come in your life you will have systems in place to deal with them, you will feel so much better about yourself.
I'm reminded of our three daughters and how when they were young girls I worried so much about how I was going to feel when they got married, when I had to walk them down the aisle and give them away to someone else.
I can still remember when our first daughter was married. I walked her down the aisle and I didn't have any of those feelings of regret at having to give her away. I felt fine about it. And that was because over time I had spent so many moments dealing with the issue of growth and development that I had gotten a peace about all of that. And without that peace, I think I never would've felt as good about my life all along the way.
I would also like to recommend that you treat yourself like a child now and then-play to your heart's content.
There is nothing that is quite so pleasant as feeling like you can just do whatever you feel like doing in a moment that doesn't hurt or negatively affect anyone else. For example, you need to just go bowling for as long as you want to bowl if that gives you pleasure.
When I was 13 years old, I remember how I would go to Abram's Drug Store and have a big cherry Coke. I didn't have more than the dime or 15 cents it cost, but I dreamed of the day that I would be able to go into Abram's drug store and buy all the cherry Cokes I wanted.
Every once in a while I do that. I say to myself, do you want another Coke? Do you want another hot dog? Do you want another hamburger? You can have all you want. I just let myself go and treat myself as I wanted to be treated as a child. Play to your heart's content.
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