5. Live Life Fully Now
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Marriage is not the start of life! Single people are fully alive and have the gift of time that allows them to dive more fully into their passions.
It can be easy to see adulthood as a set of “checks” you are just waiting to tick off your list. We can adopt the mindset that life doesn’t really begin until I reach this goal. Your life matters now and you don’t have to hold back on pursuing God or your goals just because you aren’t married.
I am going to share a little secret with you… there is a point in time after you check off those boxes in which you have to once again reinvent who you are.
It’s easy to find comfort in titles such as wife, mother, husband, etc. After you have become a wife, had the kids, and you are in the middle you have to again decide what is it that you are living for.
Those milestones are beautiful stages but they aren’t you.
Don’t wait to start being you, knowing what you are about, and living purposefully now. Don’t wait for a certain milestone to come your way to find your identity.
Begin that work of self-discovery and maybe avoid being the story I just heard yesterday about a middle aged woman with four kids that has left her family to “find herself.” Family life is not easy and having a sense of inner strength for what lies ahead is a gift to your future family.
6. Take Notes on Others Marriages
Start taking notes on the kind of marriage you want to have now. Pay attention to the traps, the strengths, and the stories that others around you a little ahead of you are writing. If your parents have an amazing marriage that you want to emulate, then keep them in mind when you start building your own relationships.
If your parents struggled, find others who can mentor you so you can have a better idea of what a healthy marriage looks like.
It’s hard to build something without knowing what you are working towards. You need a plan, the right foundations, and guides to properly build a life together.
Look to others, study what the Bible tells us about marriage, and let these nuggets of wisdom guide your steps.
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