* Embrace God’s love. Learn that, as part of God’s family, you can love freely without fear of rejection, violation, or pain. Remember that Jesus will never lie or leave you, and that He promises to love you unconditionally and forever. Come to Jesus just as you are, without waiting to try to get your act together. Know that He loves you the way you are, and that nothing could ever cause Him to love you any less or more than He already does. Develop an intimate relationship with God through prayer, reading Scripture, praising and worshiping Him, developing supportive relationships with other believers, participating in church, and taking time for quiet rest and reflection.
* Invite God to transform you. Decide to submit to God’s authority daily, trusting Him to do what’s best for you and obeying Him as He leads you. Accept your human limitations and rely on the Holy Spirit’s power to create a humble heart in you. Let go of your concerns, anxieties, self-sufficiency, and pride, and let God care for you. Ask the Holy Spirit to fill you and guide your life.
* Abide in God to be fruitful. Keep in fellowship with God so He will work in and through you to produce His fruits in your life – love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
* Invite God to use your experiences to bless others. Thank God for the healing He has brought you by making yourself available for Him to use as He works in the lives of others who are hurting. Know that God will not waste any part of your previous pain; He will use to bring about good as you share your testimony and reach out to others who need healing from abuse.
Adapted from Set Free: Stories of God’s Healing Power for Abuse Survivors, copyright 2005 by Jan Coates. Published by Bethany House Publishers, a division of Baker Publishing Group, Minneapolis, Mn.,