Although many may argue that the church is already male dominated, Murrow sees it differently. Quoting Dr. Leon Podles, "Modern churches are women's clubs with a few male officers," Murrow observed that while the church looks patriarchal on the surface, it is actually feminine. "This whole idea of a male-oriented patriarchal religion is a myth. If you're talking about the senior pastorate in Protestant churches, then yes, you've got 'way more men than women. If you're talking about the spirituality, participation, lay leadership of the church, it is feminine in every way.
"Every church needs both the feminine and masculine spirit. You see this balance in growing churches: a masculine concern for quality, effectiveness, and achievement yet a feminine supportiveness, nurturing, and tenderness. It's not about roles. It is about restoring a healthy, life-giving masculine spirit to the church."
Murrow believes that one reason the church marginalizes men is because of a more passive faith focused on a relationship instead of a mission. "We've moved away from the concept that Christianity is something we do to something we become," said Murrow.
"Few churches model men's values-risk, reward, accomplishment, heroic sacrifice, action, and adventure. Men find church boring because their values are not modeled and no one reflects their masculine heart. They has no desire to fall in love with a wonderful man, even one named Jesus."
Murrow also challenges commonly accepted church terminology as "man-repellent." "In addition to stripping masculine pronouns out of hymns and even Scripture, terms like "saved" are objectionable to men. Men hate to be lost. If you tell a man he is lost, he will instinctively resist you. Although Jesus used the term saved, He called many to follow Him. Hear the difference? Follow gives a man something to do. It suggests activity instead of passivity. But being saved is something that happens to damsels in distress."
