Worse yet, Murrow says he has been exhorted to have a love affair with Jesus. "Conservative churches oppose homosexuality, but their imagery sends an entirely different message. The more we describe Christianity in bedroom vocabulary, the more nervous men become."

Murrow counsels ministers and teachers to use terms that sound right on a construction site. "Having an 'intimate relationship with Jesus' appeals to a woman's deepest desire. For men, having an intimate relationship with another man is just plain gross. When a man loves another man, he uses terms like admire or respect."

Murrow's vision of men filling the pews is catching on. A church for men summit is in the planning (date to be announced) and several congregations has notified Murrow that they are reconfiguring their programs to be more man-friendly. While Murrow readily admits that he doesn't know exactly how a church for men would be structured, he believes churches that reach men will cause a boom in church attendance. "When a father comes to faith in Christ, his family follows 393 percent of the time. Fathers lead their children to God, not the other way around," said Murrow.

Rebekah Montgomery is the editor of Right to the Heart of Women e-zine, a publisher at Jubilant Press, and the author of numerous books on spiritual growth. She can be contacted for comments and speaking engagements at rebekahmontgomery.com