Two decades after his book I Kissed Dating Goodbye became a nationwide bestseller, author and pastor Joshua Harris is having regrets.
Harris still affirms Scripture’s teachings on sexuality. He still believes in abstinence. But after talking to friends and strangers since then, he has come to reevaluate his own conclusions in the book, which urged young people to stop traditional dating. He was 21 when he wrote it.
A new documentary, I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye, dives deeper into Harris’ new beliefs as he travels across North America interviewing experts. He also Skypes with fans and critics of the book.
“My book hurt people. My book helped people,” he says during the documentary. “The tension of both of those things being true … reflects the complexity of reality. My thinking has changed since I wrote I Kissed Dating Goodbye. I think that its premise is flawed. I don’t agree with a lot of my own book.”
Harris was married shortly after he wrote the book. He then became pastor of Covenant Life, a church in Gaithersburg, Md. Today, Harris is a graduate student at Regent College in Vancouver, B.C.
Students at the school had “mixed” views on his book and helped reshape his thinking, he says.
Here are three things Harris says he regrets about I Kissed Dating Goodbye:
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