January 18, 2008
The Gift of Listening
By Renee Swope
“I am praying to you because I know you will answer, O God.
Bend down and listen as I pray.” Psalm 17:6 (NLT)
I was recently reading a book in bed when I heard my husband calling our dog to come get her treat. He was actually luring
Daisy, our beagle, was already outside doing her business, anticipating the reward of a doggy biscuit if she obediently came back inside and went to her bed. However,
I wondered if
Once the dogs were tucked in bed, we laughed about how
Andrew my 10-year old came to my bedside to kiss me goodnight. With a concerned look in his eyes he said, “Mom, I hope when you get old you don’t go deaf like
I laughingly told him that when I’m as old as
My light-hearted response didn’t wipe the concern off his brow, so I asked why he was afraid I won’t be able to hear him.
"Well, sometimes you don’t hear me now. Like when you're on the computer and I ask you a question, sometimes you don’t hear me.” He answered without hesitation.
Ouch! I was not expecting that answer. I almost plunged into a "bad mommy" moment. My child thinks I can't hear him. I thought. I felt really bad because although I may be deeply distracted, I know that I hear him but I don’t always listen.
Instead of defining that moment with guilt, I pulled Andrew close to me and told him I was sorry for not listening sometimes.
I didn’t want him to fear that old age might make it worse. So, I explained how me being on the computer is similar to when he’s watching a good movie or playing video games. I reminded him how he gets so involved that’s it almost like he’s in another world and sometimes doesn't hear other noises, like me calling him for dinner. He nodded with a smile.
Then I made a promise I want to keep. “Andrew,” I said, "I am going to try really hard to stop what I am doing when you come to me, look away from my computer and really listen to what you’re saying. You're more important than anything I do on the computer. What you have to say matters to me!”
Today’s verse reflects our longing for God to hear us. It reminds me that in the same way I go to God because I want Him to listen and answer me; my child and others come to me because they want me to listen to them.
That night God showed me a valuable gift I can give to my children, my husband, friends, co-workers and even strangers. I can give the gift of listening by simply stopping what I’m doing, and giving my full attention to them when I hear them speak to me.
Lord, thank You for listening to me. Please help me be a better listener. It’s easy to hear with one ear while the other is turned toward my computer, the television or my cell phone. I want to give the gift of listening this year. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
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Make a list of those you want to give the gift of listening to. Tell them your want to be more like Jesus by devoting your full attention to them when they’re talking. Ask them to help you.
Here are some ideas I am trying to implement:
- Turn off my cell phone in the evenings
- Limit email to one hour each morning and evening at home
- Delay answering the phone during dinner and family time
- Turn away from my desk at work when someone comes to talk with me
- I’ve asked my kids to come to my side and jokingly say, “Chelsea? Chelsea?” after a few failed attempts to get my attention. This is a fun way for us to keep it light while helping me realize when I’m not listening.
When I talk to God, do I realize that He’s listening with His full attention?
When someone is talking to me, do I stop what I’m doing and turn my full attention to them? How can I be a better listener?
Psalm 54:2, “Hear my prayer, O God; listen to the words of my mouth." (NIV)
Psalm 66:16, “Come and listen, all you who fear God; let me tell you what he has done for me.” (NIV)
Luke 2:46, “After three days they found him [Jesus] in the temple courts, sitting among the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions.” (NIV)
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