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Forgiving Yourself - Girlfriends in God - Mar. 11, 2013

March 11, 2013

Forgiving Yourself

Sharon Jaynes

Today’s Truth

“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness,” (1 John 1:9, NIV)

Friend to Friend

An email comes to me hundreds of times every year. The names are different, the situations are varied, but the underlying theme is the same…I can’t forgive myself. Grace just doesn’t make sense. I don’t deserve to be forgiven.

And these women are right…grace doesn’t make earthly sense. We don’t deserve it. We keep reliving the Garden story with ingratitude and believing Satan’s lie, and then grace shows up with an outstretched hand. “I don’t deserve it,” we cry. And we’re right. Grace, by its very definition, is unmerited favor from God or a gift we don’t deserve. But until we accept God’s grace and forgiveness, Satan will hold us in the vise grip of guilt, and we will miss moments of sudden glory as we hide in Eden’s bushes of shame.

After King David’s affair with Bathsheba, he was held in the shackles of guilt, unsure if he could ever be set free. But mercy came with the key of forgiveness and flung the prison door open wide. David then had to take the necessary steps to walk out of the prison and into the kingdom of grace.

No matter what you have done, God has made a way for you to be set free—a very costly toll has been paid for the road to your restoration. Jesus gave His life that you might have not only eternal life after physical death, but life filled with moments of sudden glory beginning at your spiritual birth.

I in no way want to diminish the seriousness of sin. Neither do I want to lessen the truth of grace. Refusal of the Christian to repent and dogged determination to continue a lifestyle of sin spits in the face of what Christ did on the cross. Unconfessed sin draws the shade on God’s glory. Confession with repentance raises the curtain once again for God’s glory to shine through.

When we say, “I don’t feel forgiven,” that is like saying that what Jesus did on the cross is not enough. Why should we require more from ourselves than our Creator requires of us? “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus….” (Romans 8:1). None. God’s grace river washes away the devil dams of shame and condemnation that block the flow of the glory life.

If you are feeling condemnation for past sins that you have already asked God to forgive, that condemnation is not coming from God. Once you have repented and asked God to forgive you, it is finished, over and done with, wiped away. If feelings of condemnation persist, they are a result of listening to the accusations of the enemy as he tries to keep you behind those bushes and away from union and communion with God. Believe the truth. Walk in the truth, and it will lead you to moments of sudden glory all around. Without accepting God’s grace gift, in Him we live and move and have our being will be nigh to impossible to become a reality in your life. A life saturated in grace makes it so.

Satan knows that the slightest whisper of guilt is easily received by a fragile heart plundered by life. Do not let him convince you to remain in hiding. If you have been crouching in Eden’s bushes of shame, listen closely. That sound you hear is God walking your way. Whispering your name. Do you hear it? Singing love songs of grace. Inviting you to stroll with Him in the garden of your heart where He has taken up permanent residence.

Where are you? I want to commune with you. I want to show you glimpses of my glory. Where are you?

I hope you will say with me… “Here I am Lord. ‘Come, Thou Fount of ev’ry blessing. Tune my heart to sing Thy grace.’”

Let’s Pray

If you are having trouble forgiving yourself, then pray this prayer

Dear Lord, I come before You today, confessing______________. I am truly repentant and sorry for my sin against You.  I ask that You forgive me and cleanse me.  Right now, I receive Your grace and forgiveness.  I believe that You have forgiven me and will no longer hold my sin against me.  I accept the sacrifice Jesus made on the cross for my sin and thank You that my debt has been paid in full.  Thank You God for forgiving me.

 In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Now, dear one, I want you to picture your sin nailed to the cross. It is finished. Don’t let Satan try to convince you otherwise. And believe me, he will. Satan is called “the accuser” who accuses Christians day and night (Revelations 12:10). I picture him walking back and forth with our mug shots before the throne of God, saying “look at her! She’s guilty as sin!” And in response our Heavenly Father says, “I know her. She’s my precious child whom I love! Her sentence has already been taken care of. She’s forever forgiven and  free.”

Now It’s Your Turn

I don’t want to give you any extra work today. You’ve got a lot to think about. But I do want you to write down Jesus’ last words on the cross (John 19:30) and say them often throughout the day.

If you prayed the above prayer for yourself today, I want you to let me know. Click over to my blog page at or my Facebook page at and say, “It is finished.”

More from the Girlfriends

Today’s devotion came from my book, A Sudden Glory: God’s Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More.God wants to commune with you, but sometimes we hide in shame like Adam and Eve in the bushes. God asks… “Where are you?” He knows what you’ve done and He still pursues a relationship with you. Are you ready to come out of hiding? Perhaps reading A Sudden Glory is a great place to start.

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