Tuesday, June 12, 2018
The Problem with the Word Love
And we have known and believed the love that God has for us. God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God, and God in him. (
We have one word in the English language for love, and we use it for everything from “I love my job” or “I love my car” to “I love my dog” or “I love tacos.”
In the Greek language there are multiple words for love. It isn’t just one word. There is eros, which mainly refers to physical attraction. There is phileo, which speaks of brotherly love, the love between friends and family. Then there is agape, which is most commonly translated as love in the New Testament.
Now, every one of these loves has its place in a relationship. Eros is not always bad. It’s a Greek word that speaks of physical and sexual attraction, and eros is just fine in the right place. If eros is in marriage, where it can be righteously fulfilled, it is a good thing. But outside of marriage, it becomes problematic and even sinful.
While eros wants something from someone, phileo will give you something but expects something in return. Agape, on the other hand, will give you something, wanting nothing back.
If we were to compare these three loves to gift giving, eros would say, “I just want the gift from you now.” Phileo would say, “I will give you a gift, but what are you giving me in return?” And agape would say, “Here is a gift you could never pay for, ever, but I’m giving it to you because I love you.”
Tragically, many relationships today are built on eros. People go from relationship to relationship, saying they’re falling in and out of love, when in fact they have never really experienced genuine, lasting love that will last a lifetime.
Although there is a place for phileo love and eros love, we want to build our marriages on agape love.
Copyright © 2018 by Harvest Ministries. All rights reserved.
Watch Greg Laurie's weekly television broadcast on LightSource.com.
In thanks for your gift, you can receive a copy of Where I Am: Heaven, Eternity, and Our Life Beyond
If you think of the greatest pleasures you’ve had on earth and multiply them a thousand times, you’ll get just a glimpse of how wonderful it’s going to be when you get to Heaven. I encourage you to “set your mind on things above” with an awesome book about Heaven by Billy Graham.