Romancing Daniel Boone
By Sabrina McDonald
Sometimes I read certain romantic ideas for couples and think, “Do these people know I’m married to Daniel Boone? He would neverdo that!”
If the date has anything to do with picnics or libraries or black and white movies or love letters … it ain’t gonna happen.
My husband served in the military for 32 years. His favorite hobbies are bass fishing and duck hunting. Since we’ve been married, I’ve seen him read one book. It was about fishing.
And their best romantic idea is to ride bikes to the local bookstore and pick out matching romance novels? Really?
I think a lot of us as women are unhappy with a good marriage because we’ve been conditioned to believe “romantic” describes one type of behavior.
So the loving wife who longs for her husband’s attention sets out on a DIY husband makeover project and starts chipping away at his rough edges—the traits he’s proud of. Not only does the project fail, her poor husband recoils. And they’re further apart than they began.
But what is romance but an outward expression of love? When God called us, He loved us as we were, rough edges and all. And as we experienced His love, we drew nearer to Him.
That concept applies to marriage, too. Rather than expecting the “ideal” romance, why not work with what we have?
Fill your husband with love that speaks to him,and let that love overflow back onto you, in his own way.
Sabrina’s tips for romance with Daniel Boone
- Take him to the shooting range.
- Organize a weekend fishing trip.
- If you want a picnic, tone it down to fried chicken, sodas, and his favorite dessert. Maybe take a boat ride to an island on the lake or river.
- Test drive Corvettes.
- Take a drive through the country and maybe explore a new area of your town or city.
Don’t expect a lot of talking with your pioneer. But if he feels like it, keep him going. Even if you don’t know the difference between a jig and a spinner bait, ask questions and watch your husband come alive.
Husbands, if you're still reading, maybe you have a wife who doesn't go for all the lovey-dovey stuff. That's okay too! The point is to find something your spouse lovesand fill him or her up the way God fills us—overflowing. “And may the Lord make your love for one another and for all people grow and overflow, just as our love for you overflows” (1 Thessalonians 3:12,NLT).
Keep reading for “15 Things Wives Should Stop Doing."
The good stuff: We love because he first loved us. (1 John 4:19)
Action points: How have you been putting expectations on your husband that are based on someone else’s idea of romance? Did it put distance between you?Make a list of romantic ideas fit for your husband’s personality and hobbies. Put one romantic date idea from your list on the calendar within the next 60 days.
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