Gentle and Quiet Mojo
“You open your mouth and the truth just falls out.”
That’s what my friend Emily says about me. My candid personality has gotten me into trouble more than once … okay, a lot. (I blame my mother.)
But it has also served me well at times. My friends know that when they ask for my opinion, I will give honest feedback, even if it’s hard. My kids don’t mind asking me the hard questions because they know I will tell them the truth.
This (arguably) endearing quality of my personality is why I cringe a little every time I read the words of the dear Apostle Peter: “But let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious” (1 Peter 3:4).
Peter is messing with my marital mojo.
Gentle and quiet does not come naturally to my personality. Peter, of all people, should understand the struggle is real. (At least I haven’t cut off anyone’s ear!)
Peter’s admonition here is one of those verses I sort of mumble through on my way to more encouraging scriptures. Why can’t it be the beauty of an “awkward and candid spirit”? That’s what comes naturally to me.
Then the other day, I came across this scripture again and read it with fresh eyes. It stood out to me that this verse wasn’t describing a woman’s personality. It was describing her spirit.
I asked myself, “What does a gentle and quiet spirit look like?” I envisioned a woman who is filled with confident faith in the storms of life. When others are wringing their hands and pacing the floor, she trusts God. A gentle and quiet spirit looks her husband firmly in the eyes and says, “God will take care of us. I have no doubt.” She is a rock—cool and quiet, unmoved. She carries herself with confidence, not in herself, but in God.
Strength is gentle and quiet, but it’s not passive. It’s not useless. It’s not a pushover. How does this change your view of this passage?
The good stuff: The LORDwill fight for you, and you have only to be silent. (Exodus 14:14)
Action points: Think of a strong woman in your life. How does her confidence bring quietness to your own soul? Ask God to show you how to have a gentle and quiet spirit through your personality, not despite it. Read scriptures that give you confidence in God’s power and fulfillment of His promises.
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